By June Hunt<\/p>\n
\u201cI miss Ana,\u201d she laments.1 Her dear friend is gone.
\nAnd with that departure, her world turned upside down.
\nBut now she wants everything back to the way it used to be. That\u2019s when she had control over her life \u2026 that\u2019s when Ana was crucial in her life. Yet others objected\u2014those who forced Ana away.
\nToday, however, she has asked Ana to return \u2026 and she\u2019s determined to get Ana back\u2014her familiar friend, her best friend, her only friend called Ana\u2014short for Anorexia.
\nIt\u2019s startling! Around the globe, growing numbers characterize themselves as \u201cpro-ana,\u201d namely, pro-anorexic or prone to self-starvation. They wear the label with pride, attaching it to their slowly withering figures. They claim, \u201cAnorexia is not an eating disorder but rather a lifestyle choice.\u201d And now hundreds of \u201cpro-ana\u201d websites dispense their dark, distorted message of death.
\nWebsites and blogs alike help them link forces internationally to share tragic tips on everything from how to become anorexic to how to hide their non-eating habits. And for the \u201cMias\u201d (short for Bulimia), who binge and purge food, there are \u201cpro-mia\u201d sites as well.
\nAn unmistakable cloud of darkness hovers over these deadly eating disorders. Meanwhile, too many Anas and Mias in the world proudly declare that they\u2019re simply \u2026 dying to be thin.2
\nFor those who are painfully deluded, God\u2019s plan is dramatically different from the one destroying their lives. For today, God wants them to eat and enjoy the daily bread He provides \u2026 and He wants to be their \u201cbread of life\u201d for all their tomorrows. For it was Jesus who said \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI am the bread of life.\u201d
\n(John 6:48)<\/p>\n
I. DEFINITIONS<\/p>\n
Karen Carpenter\u2014the internationally acclaimed vocalist\u2014could never have imagined being \u201ccenter stage\u201d for anything other than her music.
\nShe was the sister in the sibling duo The Carpenters\u2014a sound sensation in the 1970s and early 80s that repeatedly rose to the top of the pop music charts. Songs like \u201cWe\u2019ve Only Just Begun\u201d and \u201cClose to You\u201d contributed to this Grammy award-winning pair\u2019s achieving worldwide sales of albums and singles exceeding 100 million. Karen was known for her vibrant glow and velvety voice, a combination that ignited invitations for stage performances all around the world.
\nBut February 4, 1983, marked her final curtain call. Found unconscious at her parents\u2019 home, she was rushed to the hospital, where shortly after \u2026 she was pronounced dead. Karen died of a heart attack at the tender age of 32 \u2026 but it was her medical diagnosis that once again catapulted her \u2026 back on \u201ccenter stage.\u201d
\nProverbs, the biblical book of wisdom, presents this painful truth \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThere is a way that seems right \u2026 but its end is the way to death.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 16:25 ESV)<\/p>\n
A. What Is Anorexia?<\/p>\n
Before Karen Carpenter\u2019s death, the word anorexia\u2014unknown to the average person\u2014was only occasionally uttered in doctors\u2019 offices, hospitals, and rehab facilities. But all that changed in the early 1980s when a stunned public learned that the gifted \u201cgirl-next-door\u201d\u2014America\u2019s singing sweetheart\u2014had literally starved herself to death. From that day forward, anorexia has been a familiar word.
\nThe obvious question both then and now is: Why would anyone enter into self-starvation \u2026 especially if they, like Karen, \u201chad it all\u201d\u2014fame, family, fortune? In truth, Karen\u2019s battle with anorexia began as a desperate and deliberate attempt to eliminate her curves because she loathed her \u201chourglass figure.\u201d
\nAt age 17, the 5\u20194\u201d brunette began focusing on her figure when she reached 145 pounds. At that point, she went on a diet, and in six months lost 25 pounds \u2026 then maintained an average weight of 120 pounds for the next six years. But in August 1973, Karen was appalled at pictures of herself in a concert. An unflattering dress revealed what Karen perceived to be a bloated belly \u2026 and then her painful journey began.
\nThose in the throes of this debilitating eating disorder continually struggle with a warped sense of beauty and a distorted self-image, and if asked, they would be the first to admit the accuracy of these words from the Bible \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cCharm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting.\u2026\u201d
\n(Proverbs 31:30)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexia is an eating disorder characterized by compulsive, chronic self-starvation with a refusal to maintain a body weight within 15% of a person\u2019s normal weight. The word disorder indicates that the normal function of the mind and\/or body is impaired.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexia is derived from a Greek word that means \u201cwithout appetite,\u201d which is actually \u201ca misnomer because loss of appetite is rare.\u201d However, after the body goes without nourishment for three days, natural hunger subsides \u2026 at least for a period of time.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexics weigh far less than what should be their normal body weight, which is different for every person, based on age, height, gender, bone structure, and muscle mass. Body weight that is 15% below normal poses a serious threat to physical health. (Sometimes the word Manorexia is used for males.)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexics may experience a different cause for this life-threatening eating disorder than the irrational fear of weight gain or distorted body image. (For example, if you believed that God told you to eat and drink nothing indefinitely\u2014and that to consume anything would be a clear act of rebellion against His Supreme Deity\u2014then out of obedience you could become anorexic and literally starve yourself to death. Someone like this may be suffering from a type of obsessive-compulsive disorder known as \u201cScrupulosity.\u201d) Regardless of the reason for the lack of eating, the Bible says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cMy knees give wa from fasting; my body is thin and gaunt.\u201d
\n(Psalm 109:24)<\/p>\n
ELIMINATE ALL FOOD<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cIsn\u2019t it good to eliminate all food until I lose all the weight I want?\u201d
\nANSWER: No, because not eating ENOUGH hurts your metabolism by slowing it down!<\/p>\n
When you drop your calories too low, you will lose weight, but that weight is certainly not all from fat. You will lose water weight, but more importantly, you will lose muscle weight. Your muscle is what burns the fat in your body, even at rest. Realize \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Your body will adjust itself to your new caloric intake.
\n\u2022 Any calories consumed over that amount will most likely be turned into fat.
\n\u2022 Pair that with having less muscle and then you fall into yo-yo dieting (repetitive cycles of gaining, losing, and regaining weight) \u2026 unless you consume even less calories than before.
\n\u2022 Your body can also go into starvation mode because it doesn\u2019t know if and when it will get food. It will slow down many of its normal functions in order to conserve energy and will start storing fat as it goes into a survival mode.
\n\u2022 Restricted energy can restrict brainpower, resulting in slower reaction times and reduced ability to concentrate.<\/p>\n
How much better is a healthy, balanced, disciplined diet that results in slow weight loss and keeps your surplus weight gone for good? The Bible says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThose who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 15:32)<\/p>\n
B. What Is Anorexia Nervosa?<\/p>\n
When it came to consuming food, Karen Carpenter displayed willpower\u2014to a fault.
\nUnlike bulimics, who binge on food and then purge it, Karen was never found \u201craiding the fridge\u201d for favorites like ice cream or keeping hidden candy. Her world revolved around weight loss\u2014every potential calorie was a threat. Karen\u2019s spiral downward into a full-fledged eating disorder began in November 1973 following an appearance on a Bob Hope TV special.
\nAfter viewing the videotape, Karen was distressed by how she looked, and Richard, her brother and singing partner, agreed that she looked heavier than before.
\nRichard passed off the conversation as insignificant, yet Karen vowed \u201cto do something about it.\u201d In the process, she abandoned logical, adult reasoning and embraced irrational, deceptive thoughts, seeing herself through the distorted lenses of her flawed perceptions.
\nSadly, she shared the distressing thoughts of the psalmist, \u201cHow long must I wrestle with my thoughts and day after day have sorrow in my heart? How long will my enemy triumph over me?\u201d (Psalm 13:2). Being deceived, Karen did not heed the words of God.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThis is what the LORD Almighty says: \u2018Give careful thought to your ways.\u2019 \u2026 The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of fools is deception.\u201d
\n(Haggai 1:5; Proverbs 14:8)<\/p>\n
Those afflicted with anorexia are assaulted by a barrage of obsessive thoughts about body image and food and are consumed with irrational fear and anxiety.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexia Nervosa is an intense fear of gaining weight or becoming fat even though a person is dangerously underweight (at least 15% below normal).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexia Nervosa is \u201cpsychological\u201d in that the mind pictures a distorted image of what the body looks like and produces an abnormal fear of weight gain.
\nThe two subtypes are:
\n\u2014 \u201cRestricting Anorexics\u201d maintain their dangerously low weight by excessively restricting their eating and possibly excessively exercising their bodies.
\n\u2014 \u201cBinge\/Purge Anorexics\u201d restrict their eating but also purge by self-induced vomiting and\/or the use of laxatives, diuretics, or enemas. They may also engage in binge eating.<\/p>\n
Many anorexics move back and forth between these two subtypes. Sadly, it\u2019s as though they are living out the words from the book of Job.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cSomeone may be chastened on a bed of pain with constant distress in their bones, so that their body finds food repulsive and their soul loathes the choicest meal. Their flesh wastes away to nothing, and their bones, once hidden, now stick out.\u201d
\n(Job 33:19\u201321)<\/p>\n
BODY IMAGE<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhat is meant by the term \u2018body image\u2019?\u201d
\nANSWER: Your body image refers to what you \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 See when you look at your reflection in a mirror
\n\u2022 Picture in your mind when you think of your body
\n\u2022 Believe about your physical appearance
\n\u2022 Feel about your body\u2014your features, height, weight, shape, size, hair, and skin color
\n\u2022 Sense in your body when being physically active (gesturing, talking, walking, running, biking, singing, dancing, playing sports, exercising, etc.)
\n\u2022 Think about the degree of control you have over your body
\n\u2022 Consider to be your level of comfort in your body<\/p>\n
People generally have either a positive or a negative body image.<\/p>\n
A negative body image involves \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 A distorted view of your physical body, perceiving parts of your body inaccurately
\n\u2022 A belief that others are attractive but that you are ugly both inside and outside
\n\u2022 A belief that your undesirable physical appearance reflects negatively on your character or worth
\n\u2022 A sense of shame regarding your body, feeling embarrassed and uncomfortable about it
\n\u2022 A feeling of uneasiness and awkwardness in your body
\n\u2022 A feeling of necessity to obsess over your body<\/p>\n
Having a negative body image sets you up for the likelihood of developing an eating disorder, becoming obsessed with weight loss, and experiencing depression, isolation, and low self-esteem.<\/p>\n
A positive body image involves \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 A realistic view of your physical body, perceiving the parts of your body accurately
\n\u2022 An attitude of acceptance and approval toward your body
\n\u2022 A belief that your physical appearance in no way reflects your character or worth
\n\u2022 An appreciation for and contentment with your body
\n\u2022 An absence of fixating on food, weight, or calories
\n\u2022 An inner peace and feeling at ease in your body<\/p>\n
Having a positive body image positions you to have a healthy body, to engage in healthy eating, to enjoy a number of healthy relationships \u2026 and ultimately, the freedom to be all that God created you to be by His design.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you not know that you are God\u2019s temple and that God\u2019s Spirit dwells in you?\u201d
\n(1 Corinthians 3:16 ESV)<\/p>\n
EGO AND VANITY<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhat roles do ego and vanity play in anorexia?\u201d
\nANSWER: None. Anorexics eat less and less in an effort to become smaller and smaller because of their self-effacing desire to simply disappear. Deep-seated insecurity, not vanity, is at the root of anorexia. This Scripture reflects the typical feelings of the anorexic struggler \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cOh, that I had the wings of a dove! I would fly away and be at rest.\u201d
\n(Psalm 55:6)<\/p>\n
C. What Is Anorexia Athletica?<\/p>\n
Many people caught in the cruel web of compulsive weight loss are also caught in the snare of compulsive exercise. The two compulsions work hand in hand for those seeking to control their weight, not only by controlling their caloric intake, but also by controlling the amount of calories their bodies burn up through excessive exercise. They abuse their bodies\u2014through both starvation and severe workouts. These desperate souls create their own horrific experience by starving their bodies while working them to death.
\nUnlike the Israelites, who worked under the whip of the Egyptians, those who are enslaved to anorexia athletica all too often whip themselves into early graves. Also unlike the Israelites, who cried out to God for a deliverer, these slaves suffer in silence. But God hears their unvoiced cry and yearns to deliver them from their cruel taskmaster just as He delivered the children of Israel.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThe LORD said, \u2018I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their suffering. So I have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey.\u2026\u2019 \u201d
\n(Exodus 3:7\u20138)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexia Athletica is also called \u201ccompulsive exercise,\u201d \u201cobligatory exercise,\u201d \u201cexercise addiction,\u201d and \u201cactivity disorder\u201d and refers to those who no longer exercise for pure enjoyment, but feel compelled to exercise more and more excessively over time.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Anorexia Athletica sufferers live to do physical workouts.
\n\u2014 They experience severe guilt and anxiety after missing a workout, and not even exhaustion, depression, anxiety, sickness, or injury can stop them from fulfilling their perceived need for exercise.
\n\u2014 With excessive stress on the heart, an unhealthy diet, and when damage done to the body is not allowed to heal, the end result can be severe depression and even death.<\/p>\n
Although exercise, in and of itself, is not wrong, the Bible presents exercise in its proper perspective.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cPhysical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.\u201d
\n(1 Timothy 4:8)<\/p>\n
SELF-DESTRUCTION<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhy do anorexics seem so determined to destroy themselves?\u201d
\nANSWER: The negative thinking patterns of anorexics have convinced them that \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 They don\u2019t deserve to live.
\n\u2022 Their natural longing for love is not realistic.
\n\u2022 They have made too many mistakes.<\/p>\n
Often their self-pity, negative thinking, and anger cause the breakup of marriages and withdrawal of friends. In the acute stages of the disease, some try to burn themselves in hot showers, cut themselves, or jump out of buildings. Others become so exhausted from fighting the mental battles that they see no hope and give up on life. As the Bible says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cHope deferred makes the heart sick.\u2026\u201d
\n(Proverbs 13:12)<\/p>\n
D. What Is Bulimia?<\/p>\n
In the period of history known as the Greco-Roman era, lifestyles of the opulent included lavish feasts and banquets, unabashed indulgences, and sometimes orgies. One common practice was vomiting after overindulging in food and alcohol. Today the practice of \u201cbingeing and purging\u201d still occurs\u2014a pattern characteristic of bulimia. In comparison to anorexia, bulimia is more frequent, harder to diagnose, more secretive, and often coexists with anorexia.
\nWhile the Bible instructs us to purge ourselves of impure evil thoughts and actions, it never suggests that we are to purge ourselves of the food our bodies require for sustenance.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 Jesus declared all foods clean.\u201d
\n(Mark 7:19)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Bulimia comes from a Greek word meaning \u201cgreat hunger.\u201d
\n\u2014 The constant and abnormal appetite of a bulimic is an emotional hunger that no amount of food can fill.
\n\u2014 The hunger that bulimics have is not necessarily a physical hunger.
\n\u2014 They binge in an effort to fill their three God-given inner needs for love, significance, and security.
\n\u2014 They then purge to get rid of the guilt from eating too much, as well as to maintain or lose more weight.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Bulimia is a psychological eating disorder characterized by repeated or sporadic \u201cbinge and purge\u201d episodes. Over time, some bulimics ruminate their food.
\n\u2014 Bingeing is an unrestrained consumption of large amounts of food in any setting in a short amount of time.
\n\u2014 Purging may be done by the intentional vomiting of food or by the use of laxatives and diuretics.
\n\u2014 Rumination is the unforced regurgitation, chewing, and re-swallowing of food \u2026 like a cow chewing its cud.<\/p>\n
The Bible states a clear position on the misuse of \u201cthe stomach.\u201d \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cTheir destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is set on earthly things.\u201d
\n(Philippians 3:19)<\/p>\n
OVEREATING VS. BULIMIA<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhat\u2019s the difference between overeating and bulimia?\u201d
\nANSWER: While both eat food to excess, an overeater may have little concern about being overweight, while the bulimic is consumed with body image and self-loathing.<\/p>\n
Just as Job began to despise himself, bulimics despise their bodies and are frequently filled with bitterness.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI loathe my very life; therefore I will give free rein to my complaint and speak out in the bitterness of my soul.\u201d
\n(Job 10:1)<\/p>\n
E. What Is Orthorexia?<\/p>\n
Before manifesting obvious symptoms of anorexia, Karen Carpenter bore the trademarks of a different eating disorder. After her initial concern about her appearance, Karen got caught up in the trendy health food craze that swept through California. She cut out junk food, hired a personal trainer, and purchased exercise equipment to use at home and on tour.
\nBut obsessing over healthy foods (orthorexia) and obsessing over exercise didn\u2019t bring Karen the results she wanted. She became distressed when she realized that all the exercising was actually making her \u201cbulk up\u201d rather than \u201cthin down.\u201d Finally, Karen stopped most of her exercising and eventually stopped the eating.
\nThese words from the book of Job reflect a soul in anguish \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cFor sighing has become my daily food; my groans pour out like water.\u201d
\n(Job 3:24)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Orthorexia (or orthorexia nervosa) refers to a fixation on eating only the \u201cright\u201d food\u2014an obsession with eating only healthy food.
\n\u2014 What a health-conscious person perceives to be healthy can later lead to severe malnutrition or even death.
\n\u2014 An anorexic wants to avoid food in order to lose weight.
\n\u2014 An orthorexic wants to restrict food intake in order to feel pure, righteous, healthy, and natural.<\/p>\n
Both obsessively fixate on food\u2014the anorexic on calories and the orthorexic on purities. Both have similar character traits\u2014perfectionism, intense self-criticism, and obsessive-compulsion.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Orthorexia comes from a Greek word, orth, meaning \u201ccorrect or right,\u201d and another Greek word, orexis, meaning \u201cappetite.\u201d
\n\u2014 Foods considered unhealthy usually contain fats, preservatives, man-made food additives, animal products, or other ingredients considered by the person to be unhealthy.
\n\u2014 Fruits and most vegetables are considered healthy.<\/p>\n
Sadly, many suffering from orthorexia have set themselves up as a higher judge of foods than God Himself by declaring unclean many of the foods He has declared to be clean. The Lord gave Peter this vision \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI saw something like a large sheet being let down from heaven by its four corners.\u2026 and saw four-footed animals of the earth, wild beasts, reptiles and birds. Then I heard a voice telling me, \u2018Get up, Peter. Kill and eat.\u2019 I replied, \u2018Surely not, Lord! Nothing impure or unclean has ever entered my mouth.\u2019 The voice spoke from heaven a second time, \u2018Do not call anything impure that God has made clean.\u2019 \u201d
\n(Acts 11:5\u20139)<\/p>\n
Orthorexics become obsessed with eating to improve their health and are consumed with \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 What and how much they eat
\n\u2022 Preparation of what they eat
\n\u2022 Spiritual connotations of what they eat
\n\u2022 Consequences for violating the rules of what they eat<\/p>\n
The obsession with rigidly eating foods that they consider healthy has been influenced by parents, a particular group in society, or the negative press regarding specific foods.<\/p>\n
Generally, the beginning stage of orthorexia is rooted in four major reasons \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 To improve health, treat a chronic illness, or avoid poor health
\n\u2022 To appear thin
\n\u2022 To exercise complete control, to emotionally escape from fears, and to improve self-esteem
\n\u2022 To find spirituality through eating \u201crighteous\u201d foods<\/p>\n
For the orthorexic, uncontaminated food is holy food, and to eat holy food is virtuous. The fact that eating pure, uncontaminated food is often difficult makes it that much more virtuous. Due to the propensity to become prideful, the orthorexic needs to heed this vital instruction \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cDo not be proud.\u2026 Do not be conceited.\u201d
\n(Romans 12:16)<\/p>\n
SELF-TEST FOR ORTHOREXIA<\/p>\n
If you are curious about what constitutes orthorexia or if you are concerned that you might be experiencing some of the symptoms of orthorexia, answer the following questions:<\/p>\n
Do I spend more than three hours a day thinking about food that I consider healthy?
\nDo I plan my life around food?
\nDo I place more importance on the benefit of what I eat than on the pleasure I receive while eating it?
\nDo I refuse to ever eat food I once enjoyed so I can eat the right foods now?
\nDo I experience feelings of guilt or self-loathing when I fail to strictly follow my diet?
\nDo I feel in total control when I eat the way I believe I\u2019m supposed to eat?
\nDo I constantly look for the ways foods are bad for me?
\nDo I occasionally wish I could just eat and not worry about food quality?
\nHas the quality of my life and relationships decreased as the quality of my diet has increased?
\nHas my diet caused me to become more critical of myself?
\nHas my diet made it difficult for me to eat away from home, distancing me from family and friends?
\nDoes eating \u201chealthy\u201d boost my self-esteem and cause me to look down on others who don\u2019t do as I do?<\/p>\n
If you answered yes to 2 or 3 of these questions, you may have a mild case of orthorexia. With 4 or more yes answers, your view of food has become harmful rather than helpful. If you answered yes to all these questions, you have become obsessed with food and would benefit from involvement in a program designed to help orthorexics overcome this insidiously destructive eating disorder. God\u2019s Word says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cLet us examine our ways and test them.\u2026\u201d
\n(Lamentations 3:40)<\/p>\n
ORTHOREXIA<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cIs there an easy way to determine if I could be orthorexic?\u201d
\nANSWER: Yes, there is a simple way to assess whether you might be having a problem with orthorexia. Honestly answer the following questions:<\/p>\n
\u2022 Are you increasingly confining yourself to rigid rules for eating healthy foods?
\n\u2022 Are you concerned only about benefiting from food, but not enjoying it?
\n\u2022 Are you socially isolating yourself because of your special diet of \u201chealthy food\u201d?<\/p>\n
If you answered yes to these questions, you are either presently suffering from orthorexia or are well on your way. You would benefit from receiving help in learning to develop a healthy, balanced view of food.<\/p>\n
In the process, you will need to abandon your desire for control and relinquish the reigns of your life to God\u2014the only One who can truly grant you freedom and meet your every need.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cHis divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.\u201d
\n(2 Peter 1:3\u20134)<\/p>\n
F. What is EDNOS?<\/p>\n
One day, 14-year-old Ashley saw Babe, an adorable movie about an endearing talking pig who saved the lives of numerous talking animals. Babe\u2019s heart went out to all the vulnerable farm animals (who were somewhat humanized in the film). So did Ashley\u2019s heart.
\nAs a result, young Ashley felt sorry for any turkey that could be roasted \u2026 for any goose that could be cooked \u2026 for any pig that could be barbequed.
\nAshley felt so sorry for any and all animals that could be killed for food that soon after, she became a vegetarian! While she eliminated all meat\u2014a significant source of protein\u2014she could get her body\u2019s need for protein met through eating beans.
\nBut \u2026 then she became stringently against eating the beans she needed to eat to get protein into her system. Ashley soon became skin and bones \u2026 and her parents feared for her life.
\nIf only Ashley\u2014and all those who struggle with any kind of eating disorder\u2014would accept the truth that God values us so much He gives us everything we need to sustain us.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cEverything that lives and moves about will be food for you. Just as I gave you the green plants, I now give you everything.\u2026 all the flocks and herds, and the animals of the wild, the birds in the sky, and the fish in the sea, all that swim the paths of the seas.\u201d
\n(Genesis 9:3; Psalm 8:7\u20138)<\/p>\n
\u2022 EDNOS\u2014some eating disorders have this psychological classification, which stands for Eating Disorders Not Otherwise Specified. These eating disorders can be as dangerous as specified eating disorders.<\/p>\n
\u2022 EDNOS is the category for eating disorders that do not match all the characteristics for either anorexia or bulimia. For example:
\n\u2014 Meeting the anorexic criteria except not being underweight
\n\u2014 Meeting the anorexic criteria except still having regular menses
\n\u2014 Bingeing and purging or using laxatives (for weight control) only a few times a month (with far less regularity than bulimia)
\n\u2014 Purging only small amounts of food (such as three crackers)
\n\u2014 \u201cChewing and spitting\u201d (the addictive disorder of chewing a large amount of food and then spitting it out to avoid swallowing it and to avoid the guilt of eating \u201cbad food\u201d)<\/p>\n
All those with an eating disorder are guilt-ridden because they have made for themselves unreasonable rules and unattainable goals regarding food and weight. Their guilt is not true guilt but rather false guilt. It is guilt of their own making. They could fully identify with this heart cry from the Bible \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cIf I am guilty\u2014woe to me! Even if I am innocent, I cannot lift my head, for I am full of shame and drowned in my affliction.\u201d
\n(Job 10:15)<\/p>\n
BODY DYSMORPHIC DISORDER<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhat exactly is body dysmorphia and how does it relate to eating disorders?\u201d
\nANSWER: Body Dysmorphic Disorder is a psychiatric disorder in which a person is excessively concerned about an imagined or minor defect in their physical features.<\/p>\n
\u2022 This disorder may result in a person\u2019s complaining of several specific features, a single feature, a vague feature, or their general appearance, causing psychological distress that impairs occupational and\/or social functioning, sometimes to the point of complete social isolation.
\n\u2022 For example, Karen Carpenter appeared to single out her stomach as the target of concern. Over time, this concern evolved into full-blown anorexia. The end result was that she starved herself to death in an attempt to get rid of a perceived bulge in her stomach.
\n\u2022 Those who suffer from body dysmorphia have a perception disorder.
\n\u2022 This is a perception disorder that prevents them from perceiving truth rather than error.
\nWhenever we live with deception, we cannot walk in freedom. That is why we need to be willing to hear the truth about ourselves.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c \u2018You live in the midst of deception \u2026\u2019 declares the LORD.\u201d
\n(Jeremiah 9:6)<\/p>\n
G. What Are Compulsions and Obsessions?<\/p>\n
The compulsion not to eat \u2026 indeed proved catastrophic for Karen Carpenter.
\nIn January 1982 Karen began seeing a therapist five times a week for 11 months, which met with problematic, not positive, results. By the end of the year, Karen weighed 80 pounds. She was hospitalized and underwent a medical procedure that increased her weight by 25 pounds, but Richard still felt quite unsettled.
\nAlthough her body appeared healthier, Karen\u2019s energy had been sapped from the years of physical and emotional struggle. Most disturbing of all, according to Richard, \u201clife had gone out of her eyes.\u201d Tragically, about three months later \u2026 life had gone out of her body.
\nKaren\u2019s untimely death left many questions unanswered for her family and fans. One question begs to be answered by all who put their lives at risk over food.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy do I put myself in jeopardy and take my life in my hands?\u201d
\n(Job 13:14)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Obsessions are intrusive anxiety-producing thoughts that preoccupy the struggler\u2019s mind. \u201cGod says I must fast. If I eat food, I am guilty of disobeying Him. Eating food is bad and sinful.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Compulsions are persistent drives or irresistible impulses to behave in ways that tend to become irrational. \u201cI must fast, walk, and pray, but I must not eat. I will not eat!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Compulsions drive those with an eating disorder to eliminate food or fat by a variety of means: strict dieting and fasting, emetics and self-induced vomiting, multiple laxatives and diuretics, strenuous physical exercise and smoking, Attention Deficit Disorder medications and diet pills, and drinking large amounts of caffeinated coffee and tea.
\n\u2014 An emetic is a drug that causes vomiting.
\n\u2014 A laxative is a drug that causes bowel elimination.
\n\u2014 A diuretic is a drug that causes an increase in the flow of urine.<\/p>\n
The struggler who is controlled by these obsessions and compulsions is severely out of control.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cLike a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 25:28)<\/p>\n
COMPULSIVE EATING<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cHow do I know if I have a compulsive eating disorder?\u201d
\nANSWER: Ask yourself this question: Do I feel a compulsion to avoid the intake of food or to eliminate food, and does that compulsion now have mastery over me? Those struggling with anorexia and bulimia feel enslaved; they know they are not free. The Bible says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 people are slaves to whatever has mastered them.\u201d
\n(2 Peter 2:19)<\/p>\n
In the midst of all her struggles, did Karen Carpenter ever get a glimpse of God\u2019s unconditional love? Was she aware that He loved her whether she was overweight \u2026 underweight \u2026 no matter her weight? She mattered to Him, not the numbers on her scale.
\nSuch is the love of God\u2014boundless and beautiful, deep and abiding. For many strugglers, once they experience the extraordinary unconditional love of God, they in turn discover the light of hope on the path toward healing.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThe LORD your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing\u201d
\n(Zephaniah 3:17)<\/p>\n
II. CHARACTERISTICS<\/p>\n
No one is looking \u2026 so England\u2019s Deputy Prime Minister heads for the can opener.
\nHe holds a can of sweetened condensed milk, but there are no plans to whip up a delicious pastry. Instead, he removes the lid, raises the can to his lips, and revels in the golden, velvety flow streaming into his mouth. Ah \u2026 relief \u2026 a welcomed distraction from the day\u2019s stressful demands as a politician.
\nBut John Leslie Prescott is just getting started. Mouthwatering trifles await his tasting, alongside burgers, biscuits, and beloved fish and chips. He\u2019ll also make room for his favorites at the neighborhood Chinese restaurant.
\nLooking back on his 20 years of binge eating and purging, Prescott recalls: \u201cI \u2026 took refuge in stuffing my face.\u201d
\nScripture, on the other hand, directs us to take refuge elsewhere.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cMy God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation. He is my stronghold, my refuge and my savior.\u2026\u201d
\n(2 Samuel 22:3)<\/p>\n
A. What Are Warning Signs of Bulimia Nervosa?<\/p>\n
Pauline Prescott is woefully aware of the warning signs concerning her husband.
\nLarge amounts of food continually disappear \u2026 and she shares, \u201cthe signs in the toilet gave it away.\u201d John Prescott excuses himself at restaurants often to go to the bathroom mid-meal \u2026 and then returns to eat as if taking his very first bite of food.
\nBut to diagnose Prescott with an eating disorder can certainly seem perplexing because he simply doesn\u2019t \u201clook\u201d the part. When his wife gets him to go to a doctor for bulimia, he sits elbow to elbow in a waiting room with young women, so many who are underweight. Meanwhile, Prescott is male, middle-aged, and unmistakably rotund.
\n\u201cI found it difficult as a man like me to admit that I suffered from bulimia,\u201d he confesses. \u201cI never (initially) admitted to this out of the shame and embarrassment.\u201d
\nIt\u2019s not unusual for embarrassment to blanket those struggling with bulimia. They feel overwhelming shame knowing they are out of control. And they feel afraid that people will find out about their shame and enslavement. Instead of God being their God, food has become their god. Interestingly, the Bible says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cGuard my life and rescue me; do not let me be put to shame, for I take refuge in you.\u201d
\n(Psalm 25:20)<\/p>\n
Binge episodes are often compared to:<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling instantaneously comforted
\n\u2022 Going on autopilot
\n\u2022 Numbing out
\n\u2022 Experiencing a physical high
\n\u2022 Losing control<\/p>\n
Overcompensatory behaviors are a means of getting rid of excess calories and regaining control over mind, body, and food. In reality, those who engage in such maladaptive behaviors only end up feeling famished and emotionally empty again, which leads to another uncontrollable binge, and the cycle repeats itself.
\nBulimics engage in extreme obsessive-compulsive eating and exercising (anorexia athletica) habits, which often flow over into other destructive behaviors, such as sexual promiscuity, pathological lying, and shoplifting.<\/p>\n
Bulimics \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Practice a strict diet with intervals of binge eating\u2014consuming large amounts of food in a short period of time
\n\u2022 Communicate great guilt or severe shame stemming from eating so much
\n\u2022 Cope with emotional stress through overeating\/bingeing
\n\u2022 Focus excessively on their body shape and weight while they may be normal or even underweight
\n\u2022 Practice self-induced vomiting after eating
\n\u2022 Suffer from general depression
\n\u2022 Lack self-control when it comes to food
\n\u2022 Experience possible fluctuations in weight
\n\u2022 Exercise excessively and compulsively
\n\u2022 Base self-worth on personal performance
\n\u2022 Abuse laxatives or diuretics
\n\u2022 Push their bodies way beyond normal healthy limits<\/p>\n
Those who binge and purge cannot be at rest. Their obsession over food allows them no peace. They could have written these words spoken by Job himself \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI have no peace, no quietness; I have no rest, but only turmoil.\u201d
\n(Job 3:26)<\/p>\n
EMOTIONAL OR BINGE EATER<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cHow can I tell if I am an emotional eater or a binge eater?\u201d
\nANSWER: It\u2019s not unusual for any of us to occasionally turn to food for comfort \u2026 whether we are trying to relax with a cola and fries after a long day or cool down with a pint of ice cream after an argument. But when eating becomes the main strategy for managing emotions and dealing with stress, it can develop into an unhealthy and uncontrollable food addiction.<\/p>\n
The Emotional Eater: Do you use food to \u2026<\/p>\n
Feel better about yourself?
\nCope with stress or worries?
\nFill a void in your life?
\nCheer yourself up?
\nCalm down or soothe your nerves?
\nEscape from problems?
\nReward yourself?<\/p>\n
Emotional eating can be triggered by a depressed or anxious mood, but also when feeling tense, lonely, or bored. For men suffering from what\u2019s been coined \u201cmanorexia\u201d or bulimia, they can also struggle with shame because eating disorders are primarily associated with adolescent girls and young women.<\/p>\n
Emotional eaters eat to fill their emotional emptiness rather than their physical emptiness. The problem is that emotional eating doesn\u2019t solve anything. It may be comforting for a brief moment, but then reality sets in, along with regret and self-loathing.<\/p>\n
If you answer yes to more than half of the questions below, you likely have a binge-eating problem.<\/p>\n
The Binge Eater: Do you \u2026<\/p>\n
Eat in secret?
\nFeel out of control when you eat?
\nThink about food most of the time?
\nFeel powerless to stop eating even though you want to?
\nEat until you feel sick?
\nFeel disgusted or ashamed after you eat?
\nEat to escape from worries or to comfort yourself?<\/p>\n
Emotional eating is typically done in secret as is true of almost all eating disorder behaviors. Those who practice these behaviors fail to focus on the abiding love and presence of the Lord, who is everywhere all the time and who never slumbers or sleeps.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c \u2018Who can hide in secret places so that I cannot see them?\u2019 declares the LORD. \u2018Do not I fill heaven and earth?\u2019 declares the LORD.\u201d
\n(Jeremiah 23:24)<\/p>\n
B. What Effect Does Bulimia Have on the Body?<\/p>\n
Each of John Prescott\u2019s eating binges averages about 7,000 calories, a tremendous influx of food that traumatizes the entire body.
\nAlthough Prescott suffers with shame for years, in 2008 he goes public with his private battle, desiring to help others who struggle with the same shame. He wants to destigmatize bulimia and encourage people not to suffer alone. \u201cI eventually managed to control it and to stop it a few years ago,\u201d he says. \u201cI want to say to the millions of people, do take advice, it can help and it can help you out of a lot of misery that you suffer in silence.\u201d
\nThe principle of Prescott\u2019s efforts to help others is found in Scripture.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cCarry each other\u2019s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.\u201d
\n(Galatians 6:2)<\/p>\n
HOW BULIMIA AFFECTS YOUR BODY<\/p>\n
\u2022 Blood Problems
\n\u2014 Anemia
\n\u2014 Poor circulation, low body temperature, low blood pressure
\n\u2014 Hypertension (high blood pressure)
\n\u2014 Ketoacidosis (high levels of acid buildup in the blood)
\n\u2014 Type 2 diabetes mellitus<\/p>\n
\u2022 Body Fluids
\n\u2014 Dehydration
\n\u2014 Low potassium, magnesium, sodium (Out of balance electrolytes can cause cardiac arrest.)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Kidneys
\n\u2014 Problems from diuretic abuse
\n\u2014 Infections from vitamin deficiencies, dehydration, and low blood pressure<\/p>\n
\u2022 Intestines
\n\u2014 Abdominal cramping and bloating
\n\u2014 Chronic constipation and diarrhea
\n\u2014 Irregular bowel movements, abnormal bowel function
\n\u2014 Bowel dependance on laxatives due to excessive use, causing bowels to no longer function without laxatives<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hormones
\n\u2014 Irregular or absent period
\n\u2014 Imbalances causing multiple problems throughout the body
\n\u2014 Imbalances occurring even after recovery when healthy eating habits are being practiced<\/p>\n
\u2022 Brain
\n\u2014 Distorted body image
\n\u2014 Excessive fear of weight gain
\n\u2014 Anxiety and depression
\n\u2014 Dizziness
\n\u2014 Seizures
\n\u2014 Difficulty concentrating
\n\u2014 Low self-esteem and shame
\n\u2014 Neurological and mental deterioration<\/p>\n
\u2022 Cheeks\/Jaw Area
\n\u2014 Swelling, soreness, temporormandibular joint syndrome (TMJ)
\n\u2014 Swollen salivary glands in cheeks<\/p>\n
\u2022 Mouth
\n\u2014 Purging of food, which brings up hydrochloric acid from stomach that washes across the teeth
\n\u2014 Teeth sensitive to hot and cold foods and beverages
\n\u2014 Tooth enamel erosion and discoloration (teeth appear transparent)
\n\u2014 Cavities and tooth loss
\n\u2014 Gum disease and pain
\n\u2014 Sores in the mouth, swollen salivary glands in the cheeks<\/p>\n
\u2022 Throat and Esophagus
\n\u2014 Sore and irritated
\n\u2014 Tears and ruptures
\n\u2014 Esophageal reflux, damage to larynx and lungs
\n\u2014 Bleeding esophagus
\n\u2014 Cancer of the esophagus, larynx, and throat<\/p>\n
\u2022 Muscles
\n\u2014 Fatigue and aching
\n\u2014 Atrophy<\/p>\n
\u2022 Stomach
\n\u2014 Pain and soreness
\n\u2014 Delayed emptying
\n\u2014 Ulcers and ruptures
\n\u2014 Deficiency in digestive enzymes
\n\u2014 Pancreatitis caused by repeated stomach trauma<\/p>\n
\u2022 Skin
\n\u2014 Abrasions and calluses on knuckles
\n\u2014 Dry flaky skin<\/p>\n
\u2022 Heart
\n\u2014 High cholesterol
\n\u2014 Elevated triglyceride levels
\n\u2014 Electrolyte imbalances
\n\u2014 Irregular heartbeat
\n\u2014 Heart muscle weakened, thickened
\n\u2014 Heart failure (mortality rate from 5% to 15% of bulimics due to cardiac arrest)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Lungs
\n\u2014 Shortness of breath
\n\u2014 Increased infections<\/p>\n
\u2022 Eyes
\n\u2014 Broken blood vessels, retinal detachment resulting from vomiting
\n\u2014 Vision problems<\/p>\n
\u2022 Pregnancy and Delivery Problems
\n\u2014 Miscarriage
\n\u2014 Difficulty getting pregnant
\n\u2014 Baby stillborn (not born alive)
\n\u2014 Baby born early and low birth weight
\n\u2014 Birth defects, such as blindness or mental retardation<\/p>\n
\u2022 Drastic Weight Fluctuations
\n\u2014 Chronic bingeing\/purging causes extreme weight fluctuation within short periods of time.<\/p>\n
Tragically, those who believe the lies that produce and propagate this fatal eating disorder have failed to guard their hearts and their minds, thereby putting their lives in danger. No wonder Scripture strongly admonishes us to \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cAbove all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 4:23)<\/p>\n
LAXATIVE ABUSE<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhat is the danger in using laxatives to lose weight?\u201d
\nANSWER: Laxatives do not prevent food or calories from being absorbed, but they do cause the loss of water, minerals, electrolytes, indigestible fiber, and other wastes from the colon. The result can be dehydration unless fluids are consumed to rehydrate the body, thus negating the weight loss. Some of the consequences of laxative abuse include \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Electrolyte and mineral imbalances, resulting in improper functioning of nerves and muscles, including those of the colon and heart<\/p>\n
\u2022 Severe dehydration that can lead to tremors, weakness, blurry vision, fainting, kidney damage, and even death<\/p>\n
\u2022 Laxative dependency when the colon stops reacting normally and requires larger and larger amounts of laxatives in order to function<\/p>\n
\u2022 Internal organ damage, including lazy colon, colon infection, irritable bowel syndrome, and possible colon cancer<\/p>\n
Clearly, laxative abuse is physically dangerous and can even become life-threatening. Oh, that those caught in the chaos and calamity of all addictions\u2014those whose lives are in constant danger\u2014would call on the One who is able to calm all life-threatening storms, whether external or internal. Oh, that they would place their faith firmly in Him and call on His power rather than rely on their own resources to calm the storms raging within them.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cAs they sailed, he [Jesus] fell asleep. A squall came down on the lake, so that the boat was being swamped, and they were in great danger. The disciples went and woke him, saying, \u2018Master, Master, we\u2019re going to drown!\u2019 He got up and rebuked the wind and the raging waters; the storm subsided, and all was calm. \u2018Where is your faith?\u2019 he asked his disciples.\u201d
\n(Luke 8:23\u201325)<\/p>\n
C. What Are Some Warning Signs of Anorexia Nervosa?<\/p>\n
They\u2019re known as \u201cThinspiration,\u201d famous female celebrities idolized by anorexics and praised on pro-anorexia websites for their skeletal frames.
\nOne of the most popular \u201cThinspiration\u201d figures is Victoria Beckham, formerly known as Posh Spice of the Spice Girls, a British pop music group with a string of hits in the 1990s. A posting on one website reads, \u201cI envy her thin legs and chest. She has beautiful bones sticking out of her chest.\u201d
\nThe glamorization of anorexia is closely linked to a consistent message from all different types of media: You can\u2019t be thin enough.
\nThose who struggle with anorexia are hungry for love\u2014they feel love-starved. Their deepest hunger for love can be satisfied only by the One who is love\u2014God Himself.
\nRealize, people will let you down. People can only provide a temporary filling of love that will once again end in hunger for love. No one has demonstrated more love to you than God has, love that has tremendous potential impact both now and for all eternity. The Scripture speaks of His continual love for you.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cPraise be to God, who has not rejected my prayer or withheld his love from me!\u201d
\n(Psalm 66:20)<\/p>\n
Those who suffer with anorexia nervosa have a \u201cfat phobia,\u201d an intense fear of gaining weight. Their desired weight represents their self-worth, self-control, and status. They generally fall into the following two subgroups, with many crosses back and forth between the two during the course of their illness:<\/p>\n
#1 Restricting food intake and possibly exercising excessively (anorexia athletica)<\/p>\n
#2 Bingeing and purging food<\/p>\n
Anorexics \u2026
\n\u2022 Deny ever feeling hungry
\n\u2022 Postpone major events
\n\u2022 Refuse to maintain even minimal body weight
\n\u2022 Put their life on hold until they \u201cget thin\u201d<\/p>\n
They \u2026
\n\u2022 Exercise excessively
\n\u2022 Diet exceedingly
\n\u2022 Weigh frequently
\n\u2022 Commonly experience hair loss<\/p>\n
They constantly \u2026
\n\u2022 Obsess about food, calories, and nutrition
\n\u2022 Feel bloated, fat, or nauseated from eating even small amounts of food
\n\u2022 See themselves as fat when they are truly too thin
\n\u2022 Believe they are overweight even while continuously losing weight<\/p>\n
Additionally, they necessarily \u2026
\n\u2022 Feel cold even when the temperature is normal
\n\u2022 Set unobtainable performance goals for themselves
\n\u2022 Experience amenorrhea (the absence of menstrual cycles)
\n\u2022 Avoid mirrors and photos and engage in constant self-criticism that sabotages self-esteem<\/p>\n
For those in the midst of the struggle \u2026 no matter what they do, their hearts are not at peace. Their pain is ever-present. They can feel the hurt spoken by Job in his deep suffering.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cIf I speak, my pain is not relieved; and if I refrain, it does not go away.\u201d
\n(Job 16:6)<\/p>\n
D. What Effect Does Anorexia Have on the Body?<\/p>\n
In her autobiography, Victoria admits to having an eating disorder and being consumed with her appearance while singing with the Spice Girls. \u201cIt was awful,\u201d she recollects. \u201cI was very obsessed. I could have told you the calorie and fat content in anything.\u201d A picture published in a British newspaper came with the headline \u201cSkeletal Spice.\u201d
\nMany hear the term \u201ceating disorder\u201d and feel little (if any) concern because they have little (if any) knowledge of the meaning of the term. However, others hear \u201ceating disorder\u201d and feel paralyzed with fear\u2014hearts race \u2026 palms sweat \u2026 minds swirl. Why?
\nThe reason is quite simple.\u2026 They know all too well this lying, conniving, murdering thief. They\u2019ve seen its bony fingers choke the life out of a precious loved one while whispering words of deception. They\u2019ve seen the deadly stranglehold and have felt helpless to lend a hand. Those who have watched a loved one drink its poisonous words have seen an eating disorder destroy a life, a family, even a community. They are far too familiar with the hideous and horrendous ways it can destroy a person\u2019s body, mind, and spirit.
\nThey know because they have lived it. They have seen up close and personal the physical complications of anorexia nervosa and its deadly twin, bulimia nervosa. What they may not know is that humility of heart and reverence for God are key factors in having a healthy body.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cDo not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 3:7\u20138)<\/p>\n
HOW ANOREXIA AFFECTS YOUR BODY<\/p>\n
\u2022 Brain and Nerves
\n\u2014 Cognitive impairment, disordered thinking, extreme forgetfulness, seizures due to malnutrition
\n\u2014 Irrational fear of weight gain
\n\u2014 Sadness, depression
\n\u2014 Moodiness, irritability
\n\u2014 Fainting, dizziness
\n\u2014 Changes in brain chemistry
\n\u2014 Numbness or sensations in hands or feet (neuropathy)
\n\u2014 Structural changes (reduction in gray matter) and abnormal brain activity (sometimes permanent)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hair
\n\u2014 Thinning hair gives a balding appearance.
\n\u2014 Brittle hair falls out, white fuzz (called lanugo) appears on the body to help keep it warm.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Heart
\n\u2014 Reduced blood flow
\n\u2014 Slow heart rate, irregular rhythms
\n\u2014 Abnormally low blood pressure
\n\u2014 Fluttering of the heart (palpitations)
\n\u2014 Decreased size of heart (Muscles shrink from starvation.)
\n\u2014 Electrolyte imbalance
\n\u2014 Heart attack
\n\u2014 Heart failure<\/p>\n
\u2022 Blood
\n\u2014 Anemia
\n\u2014 Low levels of vitamin B12, causing anemia
\n\u2014 Low production of blood cells
\n\u2014 Lack of red blood cells (life-threatening)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Malnutrition
\n\u2014 Brittle nails
\n\u2014 Low body weight
\n\u2014 Respiratory infections
\n\u2014 Blindness
\n\u2014 Death<\/p>\n
\u2022 Psychological Problems
\n\u2014 Distorted view\u2014seeing themselves as fat even though they are \u201cskin and bones\u201d
\n\u2014 Anxiety, depression, suicide
\n\u2014 Insomnia<\/p>\n
\u2022 Reproductive Problems
\n\u2014 Infertility
\n\u2014 Miscarriage
\n\u2014 C-section
\n\u2014 Complicated deliveries
\n\u2014 Baby with low birth weight
\n\u2014 Birth defects
\n\u2014 Postpartum depression<\/p>\n
\u2022 Muscles, Joints, and Bones
\n\u2014 Muscle atrophy (wasting away of muscle and decrease in muscle mass) resulting from the body feeding off of itself
\n\u2014 Weak muscles, swollen joints, temporary paralysis
\n\u2014 Chronic fatigue syndrome related to weakened immune system
\n\u2014 Loss of bone minerals (osteopenia)
\n\u2014 Loss of bone density (osteoporosis), fractures, brittle bones
\n\u2014 Lack of hormones and vitamin deficiencies (arthritis)
\n\u2014 Failure to develop strong bones in children and teenage girls
\n\u2014 Slowed growth in children and adolescents
\n\u2014 Stunted growth in boys due to declining testosterone levels<\/p>\n
\u2022 Kidneys
\n\u2014 Kidney stones
\n\u2014 Kidney failure<\/p>\n
\u2022 Body Fluids
\n\u2014 Dehydration can lead to kidney failure, seizures, and brain damage.
\n\u2014 Low potassium, magnesium, sodium, and electrolyte imbalance can cause heart failure.
\n\u2014 Hyponatremia (insufficient sodium in the blood) can result from drinking too much water too quickly, causing the lungs to fill with fluid, the brain to swell, vomiting, confusion, and death.
\n\u2014 Edema (swelling of soft tissues) can result from excess water retention.
\n\u2014 Refeeding Syndrome (life-threatening fluid and electrolyte shifts) can result from aggressive nutritional support therapies\u2014nutritional support needs to increase slowly.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Intestines\/Gastrointestinal Problems
\n\u2014 Abdominal pain, cramps, and bloating
\n\u2014 Constipation and diarrhea
\n\u2014 Gastric rupture, stomach erosion, or perforation
\n\u2014 Gastrointestinal bleeding, Crohn\u2019s Disease<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hormones
\n\u2014 Cessation of menstrual cycle (amenorrhea)\u2014when fat levels drop below 22% of normal weight, deficiency in fat (essential for good health), causing menstrual cycles to stop
\n\u2014 Growth stunted
\n\u2014 Decreased reproductive hormones
\n\u2014 Hypothyroidism (low thyroid levels)
\n\u2014 Higher stress hormone levels
\n\u2014 Hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) causing fatigue, dizziness, headaches<\/p>\n
\u2022 Skin
\n\u2014 Bruise easily
\n\u2014 Dry, yellow skin
\n\u2014 Growth of fine hair all over body (lanugo)
\n\u2014 Low body temperatures
\n\u2014 Brittle nails
\n\u2014 Dark circles under the eyes<\/p>\n
\u2022 Dental problems
\n\u2014 Decalcification of teeth
\n\u2014 Erosion of tooth enamel
\n\u2014 Severe staining and decay
\n\u2014 Gum disease (gingivitis, periodontitis)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Organ Problems
\n\u2014 Prolonged lack of calories leads to dangerously high blood levels of liver enzymes.
\n\u2014 Multiple organ failure results in death.
\n\u2014 Pancreatitis can result from digestive enzymes related to repeated stomach trauma.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Drastic Weight Loss
\n\u2014 The self-starvation of the anorexic causes the body weight to drop so low that kidneys and other organs start to shut down, leading to death.<\/p>\n
Make no mistake\u2014anorexia is life-threatening. Therefore, don\u2019t be in denial. Like this admission in the Psalms, admit your anguish and weakness. That\u2019s the first step toward healing.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cMy life is consumed by anguish and my years by groaning; my strength fails because of my affliction, and my bones grow weak.\u201d
\n(Psalm 31:10)<\/p>\n
Note: If you are experiencing any of these physical or emotional problems, be sure to consult your healthcare professional immediately.<\/p>\n
E. What Effect Does Starvation\/Anorexia Have on the Brain?<\/p>\n
Since the entire body is impacted by the presence of life-sustaining food, the absence of food also impacts the whole body\u2014specifically the brain. This makes it increasingly more difficult for the sufferer to make sound decisions because the mind is not sharp and thinking is murky. They are unable to know the peace of God because their minds are unable to trust completely in God. The Bible says about Him \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cYou [God] will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.\u201d
\n(Isaiah 26:3)<\/p>\n
A recent study has shown that brain function in those who suffered and recovered from anorexia is different from those who have never suffered from an eating disorder. Some of those differences have included \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Brain function in recovered anorexic women showed little emotional response to winning or losing a simple game, while brain function in non-anorexic women revealed a stronger emotional response to the same situation.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Brain function in recovered anorexic women showed little difference in distinguishing positive and negative feedback, while brain function in non-anorexic women revealed stronger degrees of activity when discriminating between positive and negative responses.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Brain function in recovered anorexic women showed stronger emphasis on strategic methods of game play, while brain function in non-anorexic women revealed greater enjoyment of game play.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Brain function in recovered anorexic women revealed undue worry over making mistakes and a desire to discover \u201crules\u201d where none exist, while brain function in non-anorexic women showed an aptitude for making choices and then moving on more easily.<\/p>\n
Additionally, the human brain needs sufficient nutrition and relaxation. Studies show that stress and starvation deprives the brain of necessary nutrients and actually slows down thought processes, leaving starving people feeling \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Fearful and distraught
\n\u2022 Dull and mentally slow
\n\u2022 Moody and mentally foggy
\n\u2022 Agitated and without good judgment<\/p>\n
An experimental group showed some distinct characteristics after experiencing six months of reduced food intake.<\/p>\n
They \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Obsessed about food
\n\u2022 Conversed constantly about food
\n\u2022 Showed interest in food only<\/p>\n
Clearly, anyone who is starving becomes preoccupied with food, just like the anorexic. Interestingly, this food obsession can disappear with normal caloric intake. Just as a well-oiled engine runs silently and smoothly, a well-fed brain is able to take thoughts captive and control unhealthy urges.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.\u201d
\n(2 Corinthians 10:5)<\/p>\n
F. What Are Common Characteristics of Orthorexia?<\/p>\n
As orthorexia (an obsession in eating only healthy food) takes root in a person\u2019s mind and life, several symptoms begin to emerge that are common among all who become extreme in their analysis of food and their need to control its role in their lives. While a diet rich in whole grains, fresh fruits, and vegetables with moderate amounts of dairy products, lean meat, and fish can contribute to a healthy lifestyle, some can develop an unhealthy emphasis on eating healthy foods that can have a crippling effect on their lives.
\nAt the core of this eating disorder is a five-letter word familiar to all of us and common within all of us\u2014pride! Left unchecked, it always leads to destruction.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cPride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 16:18)<\/p>\n
Generally, those struggling with orthorexia \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hold strong attitudes\u2014both positive and negative\u2014about foods
\n\u2022 Feel an exaggerated concern about eating only healthy, pure food
\n\u2022 Prefer to grow, pick, and\/or prepare \u201chealthy food\u201d
\n\u2022 Refuse to eat out due to the possibility of poor food preparation
\n\u2022 Avoid needed medicine while instead focusing on food as medicinal
\n\u2022 Feel prideful about eating only select foods
\n\u2022 Reject common food, believing it to be harmful
\n\u2022 Spend an inordinate amount of time thinking, reading, discussing, planning, shopping, inspecting, measuring, preparing, and cooking food
\n\u2022 Feel superior to others who eat \u201cinferior\u201d foods
\n\u2022 Feel plagued with guilt and shame after deviating from a rigid, \u201crighteous\u201d diet
\n\u2022 Feel an increasing sense of conviction that eating improperly is a grievous sin<\/p>\n
Those suffering with orthorexia need to heed the words of Jesus and turn their focus from the food they put in their mouths to the words that come out of their mouths.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c \u2018Are you so dull?\u2019 he asked. \u2018Don\u2019t you see that nothing that enters a person from the outside can defile them? For it doesn\u2019t go into their heart but into their stomach, and then out of the body.\u2019 (In saying this, Jesus declared all foods clean.)\u201d
\n(Mark 7:18\u201319)<\/p>\n
III. CAUSES<\/p>\n
Hers should have been a storybook life\u2014complete with the happiest ending\u2014but although she lived in a palace, the princess couldn\u2019t hide the pain.
\nLady Diana Spencer walked the aisle and onto the world stage when she married Prince Charles on July 29, 1981, and became Princess Diana. The 20-year-old bride was beautiful, bashful, and immediately beloved.
\nShe would go on to become one of the most famous women in the world, her every move recorded, photographed, adored. But what went on behind closed castle doors \u2026 didn\u2019t fit with the regal, public fa\u00e7ade.
\nPrince Charles\u2019 previous longtime romantic relationship with Camilla Parker Bowles interfered with Diana\u2019s marriage and resulted in the prince\u2019s ensuing adultery. Both Diana\u2019s marriage and her spirit were broken. Thus, the princess would seek consolation in food\u2014large amounts of food. Yet it was only a fleeting fix for her pain, for she would always purge it back up.
\n\u201cRampant bulimia\u201d was her recourse upon learning that Prince Charles had resumed his relationship with Camilla. Her external, out-of-control bingeing and purging merely reflected her internal depth of despair.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo my heart began to despair over all my toilsome labor under the sun.\u201d
\n(Ecclesiastes 2:20)<\/p>\n
Diana described \u201ca feeling of being no good at anything and being useless and hopeless and failed in every direction.\u201d
\nHer husband\u2019s love for another woman also led to increased isolation. Diana recalled Charles\u2019 friends labeling her sick, unstable, and in need of being put in some sort of home to get better. \u201cI was almost an embarrassment.\u201d
\nThe Princess of Wales was a princess in pain. She felt helpless over her husband\u2019s infidelity, and she felt inadequate around the Royal Family. \u201cAnything good I ever did nobody ever said a thing, never said, \u2018well done,\u2019 \u201d she shared. \u201cBut if I tripped up, which invariably I did, because I was new at the game, a ton of bricks came down on me.\u201d
\nBy her own admission, the rejection and loneliness led her into an illicit affair; her low self-worth was the setup for her eating disorder. And because of her husband\u2019s betrayal, her dignity was damaged and her security was destroyed. Any struggler in such emotional pain could identify with the suffering of Job.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cTerrors overwhelm me; my dignity is driven away as by the wind, my safety vanishes like a cloud.\u201d
\n(Job 30:15)<\/p>\n
A. What Distortions Contribute to Anorexia or Bulimia?<\/p>\n
In a 1995 interview, Princess Diana contemplated her marriage into the royal family and the accompanying adjustments with life in the limelight. Diana believed she had Charles\u2019 support with her role, but it wouldn\u2019t take long for the media to put a strain on their marriage. She \u2026 not he \u2026 would become the media darling, a source of \u201cphenomenal\u201d pressure while trying to publicly operate as a couple.
\nDiana\u2019s struggles with insecurity surfaced early on, even hinting at the deception and distortion over personal appearance that accompanies bulimia. She in no way saw herself as the world saw her: \u201cAs far as I was concerned I was a fat, chubby, 20-year-old, 21-year-old, and I couldn\u2019t understand the level of interest.\u201d
\nDenial, the mental process that leads addicts to conclude they are okay and do not have a problem, is common among those suffering with various forms of eating disorders. Defiance is often the result when confronted with the possibility of illness.
\nIf you are concerned about someone struggling with anorexia or bulimia, review the following checklist and mark behaviors you have observed. This could be the first step in planning an intervention if it becomes necessary. Seeing something written, something tangible, might help raise red flags and initiate movement toward the road to recovery. A consultation with a medical professional also is highly beneficial.
\nMore often than not, interventions are intense because people with anorexia and bulimia are driven by one solitary fear\u2014the fear of getting fat. Anticipate irrationality and strong emotional displays, but always remember the earlier the intervention, the greater the chance for recovery.
\nAlso realize the responsibility you have to do everything within your power to rescue your loved one from the very real and ruthless jaws of death that await all who fail to escape the death grip anorexia and bulimia have on their lives.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cRescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 24:11)<\/p>\n
ARE YOU PUZZLED OVER AN EATING DISORDER?<\/p>\n
Puzzles are solved by carefully putting the pieces together to reveal a true picture. When you put the emotional clues together, the picture emerges of a person in pain\u2014one who feels love-starved, security-deprived, or insignificant\u2014one who is caught in a life-threatening cycle.
\nLearning the truth and living in the truth about the Lord\u2019s unfailing love for you are the major pieces needed to begin solving the problem \u2026 to begin the healing process of becoming whole.
\nAs the nation of Israel did long ago, you also can take great comfort from the Lord\u2019s words in Isaiah.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c \u2018Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,\u2019 says the LORD, who has compassion on you.\u201d
\n(Isaiah 54:10)<\/p>\n
As you read through the following list, check each one that applies to you.<\/p>\n
I hate how I look.
\nI hate how I feel.
\nI don\u2019t like my body.
\nI feel fat and powerless.
\nI constantly compare my body to others who are thin.
\nI would be happy if I could control how I look.
\nI obsessively weigh myself more than once a day.
\nI obsessively think about food.
\nI eat when I\u2019m not hungry.
\nI eat when I\u2019m stressed, anxious, or bored.
\nI count calories and fat grams every time I eat.
\nI hide how many meals I skip.
\nI hide how much I eat.
\nI hide how much I vomit.
\nI hide how much I exercise.
\nI hide how many laxatives and\/or diuretics I take.
\nI hide my true feelings.
\nI avoid conflict at all costs.
\nI avoid being around people because I feel fat.
\nI have a hard time eating when other people are present.
\nI have a hard time asking for help.
\nI avoid letting people really know me.
\nI feel a lot of guilt over my past.
\nI feel a sense of shame about who I am.
\nI feel a sense of low self-worth.
\nI feel good because I\u2019m a perfectionist.
\nI wish I could just disappear.
\nI wish I could stop my pain.<\/p>\n
If this list accurately reflects your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, you will quickly and completely identify with the words of Job.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 I cannot lift my head, for I am full of shame and drowned in my affliction.\u201d
\n(Job 10:15)<\/p>\n
B. What Is the Hunger for Love?<\/p>\n
Princess Diana sought love and attention not from the world, but from those most closely around her.
\nAnd yet, they didn\u2019t \u201cget it\u201d because she was constantly on the front pages of newspapers and magazines. The last thing she needed, they mistakenly presumed, was more attention.
\nBut the princess continually cried out \u2026 to the point of injuring herself. \u201cI didn\u2019t like myself, I was ashamed because I couldn\u2019t cope with the pressures.\u201d She would cut herself on her thighs and arms, sometimes even in front of Prince Charles.
\nAn adoring public helped Diana carry through with her official duties and provided some relief from her emotional pain.
\nPrincess Diana described her bulimia as a \u201csecret disease,\u201d something you inflict upon yourself because \u201cyour self-esteem is at low ebb and you don\u2019t think you\u2019re worthy or valuable.\u201d Stuffing her stomach with food created a false feeling of comfort, like \u201ca pair of arms\u201d around her. But the momentary solace always gave way to disgust as she peered down at her bloated stomach, and Diana would vomit it all up. Not once, not twice \u2026 but up to five times a day.
\nDiana suffered from bulimia for \u201ca number of years,\u201d the bingeing and purging occurring daily with alarming frequency during the most stressful periods of her life.
\nBut eating disorders can cover the gamut, with some people engaging in the practice of bingeing and purging only once or twice a week. Others habitually chew their food, savoring the flavor and texture, and then spit it out. And still others will induce vomiting, not after two packages of cookies, but after just two cookies.\u2026
\nBingeing and purging was an \u201cescape mechanism\u201d for Diana, a distraction from her stress-filled marriage.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 I was overcome by distress and sorrow.\u2026 I have suffered much.\u2026\u201d
\n(Psalm 116:3; 119:107)<\/p>\n
Eating disorders are merely symptoms of the surfacing problems, not the underlying, actual problem. Those suffering from these eating disorders have believed lies and have lost sight of the truth. But God wants us to face the truth, as seen in this Psalm \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cGuide me in your truth and teach me.\u2026\u201d
\n(Psalm 25:5)<\/p>\n
Those with eating disorders experience \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Confusion over values. What is more important:
\n\u2014 Appearance or achievement?
\n\u2014 Thinness or healthiness?
\n\u2014 Beauty or brains?<\/p>\n
\u2022 Deception of self and others \u2026
\n\u2014 Pretending to swallow food but spitting it out later
\n\u2014 Cutting food into tiny bites to appear to be eating; secret rituals with food
\n\u2014 Lying about eating<\/p>\n
\u2022 Depression over feeling \u201cfat\u201d (although weight is normal or far below\u2014even to the point of looking like \u201cskin and bones\u201d) \u2026
\n\u2014 Processing information becomes utterly painful.
\n\u2014 Logical thinking becomes virtually impossible.
\n\u2014 Life becomes an unconscious\u2014or a conscious and deliberate\u2014attempt at suicide.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Compulsion for some feeling of control \u2026
\n\u2014 \u201cEating is the one part of my life I can control.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI can eat as much as I want and still not gain weight.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cThis way I can make the pain go away.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Loneliness because of the desire to avoid discovery \u2026
\n\u2014 \u201cI just cannot talk to anyone about this problem.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI feel claustrophobic if people get too close to me.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI long for closeness, yet I\u2019m scared of it.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Low self-worth because personal value is based on appearance \u2026
\n\u2014 \u201cI\u2019m a fat pig.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI don\u2019t deserve to live.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI don\u2019t deserve any help! I am a bad person.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Perfectionism because they believe that everything must fit just right, or it\u2019s horrible \u2026
\n\u2014 \u201cI must have the perfect body like the models in the magazines.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI must make a perfect appearance or I don\u2019t want to appear at all.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI must perform perfectly or no one will love me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 People pleasing with an excessive desire for approval \u2026
\n\u2014 \u201cIf I\u2019d just done better, my parents wouldn\u2019t have divorced.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cIf I\u2019d just looked better, I wouldn\u2019t have been abandoned.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cIf I\u2019d just weighed less, I might have been loved.\u201d<\/p>\n
The Bible instead encourages us to evaluate our priorities.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cFor am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.\u201d
\n(Galatians 1:10 ESV)<\/p>\n
COMMON CAUSE<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhat is the most common cause of eating disorders?\u201d
\nANSWER: All behaviors, including eating disorders are a product of our minds\u2014our thought processes and our subsequent personal beliefs we form and then act on. The reasons for our thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors may vary, but the outcome is nonetheless the same\u2014self-harming action believed to be harmless is taken and is completely justified by the person with an eating disorder. In other words \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Disordered behavior is the natural outgrowth of disordered thinking that leads to the formation of disordered beliefs.<\/p>\n
People who develop a problem with eating disorders do so in an attempt to solve another problem. They need to be in control because at some point they feel their life is chaotic and totally out of control. They have:<\/p>\n
\u2014 Overwhelming life events that leave them feeling vulnerable and powerless to take charge of their everyday circumstances and powerless to bring order out of chaos.<\/p>\n
\u2014 Overbearing but boundary-less parents who leave them feeling the need to take control of at least one area of life in order to establish separateness. After all, nothing is more easily controlled than eating food. Even tiny babies are capable of refusing to eat.<\/p>\n
By contrast, those struggling with bulimia often already feel so disconnected from family or friends that they feel the need to draw attention to themselves or to fill the emptiness they feel inside with food.
\nThe end result of the repeated, unhealthy actions of those with eating disorders is that both a behavioral and a chemical addiction can develop. As the body begins to deteriorate through starvation, powerful, addicting brain chemicals are released that give a sense of euphoria.<\/p>\n
\u201cThey loathed all food and drew near the gates of death.\u201d
\n(Psalm 107:18)<\/p>\n
C. What Are Situational Causes?<\/p>\n
Princess Diana battled bulimia for seven years, and she knew the eating disorder revealed a far deeper problem than \u201cnot being able to get into a size 10 dress.\u201d
\nWhile Diana readily admits that societal demands for physical perfection can trigger anorexia or bulimia, there are other causes at work as well, including a distorted relationship with something everyone needs for survival\u2014food.
\nPeople with eating disorders \u201cturn nourishment of the body into a painful attack on themselves\u201d and what appears to be a surface environmental cause\u2014vanity\u2014actually goes much deeper.
\nAn eating disorder can become a \u201cshameful friend,\u201d according to Diana, because by focusing tremendous energy on controlling the body, a \u201crefuge\u201d has been found for not having to face the more painful issues at hand.
\nSadly, those who refuse to face painful truths in their lives most often hate their very lives and reflect the heart of this verse \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI loathe my very life; therefore I will give free rein to my complaint and speak out in the bitterness of my soul.\u201d
\n(Job 10:1)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling worthless because of abuse in the home
\n\u2014 Verbal assaults or emotional starvation
\n\u2014 Physical or sexual abuse
\n\u2014 Alcoholism or drug abuse<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling inadequate because of unrealistic expectations of others
\n\u2014 Critical, perfectionistic, or extremely weight-conscious parents
\n\u2014 Acceptance based on performance or appearance
\n\u2014 Conditional love<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling driven in a high performance atmosphere
\n\u2014 Models, musicians, dancers
\n\u2014 Actors, actresses, celebrities
\n\u2014 Athletes, particularly wrestlers and gymnasts<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling hopeless as a result of depression from past behaviors
\n\u2014 Denial of reality
\n\u2014 Deep sadness
\n\u2014 Guilt from personal actions<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling powerless because of obesity or other eating disorder in the family
\n\u2014 One or both parents being overweight
\n\u2014 A propensity for gaining weight
\n\u2014 Fear of being fat<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling angry because of past mistreatment
\n\u2014 Teased or ridiculed by peers
\n\u2014 Bullied due to size or weight
\n\u2014 Rejected due to physical flaws or limitations<\/p>\n
\u2022 Feeling anxious due to stressful life changes
\n\u2014 Moved to another city, state, or country
\n\u2014 Changed jobs
\n\u2014 Experienced a traumatic event<\/p>\n
Feelings rather than facts dominate the decisions of those dealing with an eating disorder. The result is increased internal and external chaos because their feelings are skewed, thus they cannot provide a solid basis for making decisions. When distorted feelings rule, desired control is lost because unpredictability reigns, not order. Rather than being in control, feelings need to be controlled. They are designed by God to be the caboose not the engine driving someone\u2019s life choices. Reason based on facts is to guide us in making decisions.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cCome now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool. If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land; but if you refuse and rebel, you shall be eaten by the sword; for the mouth of the LORD has spoken.\u201d
\n(Isaiah 1:18\u201320 ESV)<\/p>\n
D. What Causes Someone to Become Orthorexic?<\/p>\n
\u201cI have it, on very good authority, that the quest for perfection our society demands can leave the individual gasping for breath at every turn.\u201d So went the opening lines of a speech Princess Diana gave in the early 1990s on eating disorders. Her words communicated desperation \u2026 that leads to the drastic deception associated with eating disorders.
\nThere are countless others like Diana \u2026 who suffer in silence. The perceived stigma associated with eating disorders prevents many from speaking openly about their struggle and seeking help. But often they will cry out indirectly \u2026 manifesting on the outside their deep hurt on the inside.
\nAn eating disorder is a consequence of your attempt to have your inner hunger for unconditional love and acceptance met by having a \u201cperfect body.\u201d \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cListen to my cry, for I am in desperate need.\u2026\u201d
\n(Psalm 142:6)<\/p>\n
Those who become orthorexic progress from \u2026 spending a limited amount of time experimenting with various foods in order to discover their individual health benefits to \u2026 spending an inordinate amount of time dwelling on food, feeling compelled to follow a rigid diet. They may stop eating red meat, then all meat, then all processed foods, then eventually eat only specific foods prepared in specific ways.<\/p>\n
They become obsessed with eating to improve their health and are consumed with \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 What and how much they eat
\n\u2022 Preparation of what they eat
\n\u2022 Spiritual connotations of what they eat
\n\u2022 Consequences for violating the rules of what they eat<\/p>\n
The obsession with rigidly eating foods they consider healthy has been influenced by parents, a particular group in society, or the negative press regarding specific foods.<\/p>\n
Generally, the beginning stage of orthorexia is rooted in four major reasons:<\/p>\n
\u2022 To improve health, treat a chronic illness, or avoid poor health
\n\u2022 To appear thin
\n\u2022 To exercise complete control, emotionally escape from fears, and improve self-esteem
\n\u2022 To find spirituality through eating \u201crighteous\u201d food<\/p>\n
For the orthorexic, uncontaminated food is holy food, and to eat holy food is virtuous. The fact that eating pure, uncontaminated food is often difficult makes it that much more virtuous. Because of the propensity to become prideful, the orthorexic needs to heed this vital instruction \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cDo not be proud.\u2026 Do not be conceited.\u201d
\n(Romans 12:16)<\/p>\n
E. What Is the Root Cause of an Eating Disorder?<\/p>\n
Princess Diana believed the root cause of an eating disorder often stems from childhood pain or the self-doubt and uncertainty associated with adolescence.
\nThe pressure of youth who feel the need to be perfect, coupled with their inability \u201cto express their true feelings \u2026 of guilt, of self-revulsion, and low personal esteem\u201d can lead them in adulthood to want to \u201cdissolve like a disprin [aspirin] and disappear,\u201d she said \u2026 speaking from experience.
\nBy understanding the causes of eating disorders, we can be proactive to help meet the emotional needs of children as a preventative. \u201cAs parents, teachers, family and friends, we have an obligation to care for our children. To encourage and guide, to nourish and nurture and to listen with love to their needs, in ways which clearly show our children that we value them. They in their turn will then learn how to value themselves.\u201d
\nUntil her untimely death from a car accident in 1997, Princess Diana was a public advocate for the diagnosis and treatment of eating disorders. She put an international spotlight on the troubling issue. Just as Diana longed for children to become adults who \u201cvalue themselves,\u201d a biblical perspective assumes that people recognize their God-given value.
\nJesus wants us to recognize and always remember that we are unique creations, masterpieces, and that we are loved beyond measure. He longs for us to realize our value and significance to Him.
\nIf you are suffering from anorexia or bulimia, Jesus can fill the deepest longings of your soul. He loves you with an everlasting love. He has paid for you and claimed you as His very own. He has a perfectly designed plan and purpose for your life. He can provide lasting sustenance for your emotional and spiritual hunger. And He wants you to nourish and take special care of your body because it was compassionately created with the utmost precision. Value yourself \u2026 know your God-given worth.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cBefore I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.\u2026\u201d
\n(Jeremiah 1:5)<\/p>\n
3 GOD-GIVEN INNER NEEDS<\/p>\n
In reality, we have all been created with three God-given inner needs: the needs for love, significance, and security.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Love\u2014to know that someone is unconditionally committed to our best interest
\n\u201cMy command is this: Love each other as I have loved you\u201d (John 15:12).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Significance\u2014to know that our lives have meaning and purpose
\n\u201cI cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me\u201d (Psalm 57:2 ESV).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Security\u2014to feel accepted and a sense of belonging
\n\u201cWhoever fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge\u201d (Proverbs 14:26).<\/p>\n
THE ULTIMATE NEED-MEETER<\/p>\n
Why did God give us these deep inner needs, knowing that people fail people and self-effort fails us as well?<\/p>\n
God gave us these inner needs so that we would come to know Him as our Need-Meeter. Our needs are designed by God to draw us into a deeper dependence on Christ. God did not create any person or position or any amount of power or possessions to meet the deepest needs in our lives. If a person or thing could meet all our needs, we wouldn\u2019t need God! The Lord will use circumstances and bring positive people into our lives as an extension of His care and compassion, but ultimately only God can satisfy all the needs of our hearts. The Bible says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThe LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.\u201d
\n(Isaiah 58:11)<\/p>\n
The apostle Paul revealed this truth by first asking, \u201cWhat a wretched man I am. Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death?\u201d and then by answering his own question in saying it is \u201c\u2026 Jesus Christ our Lord!\u201d (Romans 7:24\u201325).<\/p>\n
All along, the Lord planned to meet our deepest needs for \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Love\u2014\u201cI [the Lord] have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness\u201d (Jeremiah 31:3).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Significance\u2014\u201c \u2018For I know the plans I have for you,\u2019 declares the LORD, \u2018plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future\u2019 \u201d (Jeremiah 29:11).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Security\u2014\u201cThe LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged\u201d (Deuteronomy 31:8).<\/p>\n
The truth is that our God-given needs for love, significance, and security \u2026 can be legitimately met \u2026 in Christ Jesus! Philippians 4:19 makes it plain \u2026 \u201cMy God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.\u201d Both the anorexic and the bulimic have an obsessive focus on being thin. The bulimic does not love food any more than the anorexic loves to starve.
\nIn fact, the bulimic comes to hate the food just as much as the anorexic does. The bulimic uses food as a means to numb feelings and as a tool to lose weight. It provides something to purge, thereby eliminating calories and leading to weight loss.<\/p>\n
\u2022 WRONG BELIEF:
\n\u201cI\u2019m so fat no one could love me. I hate who I am. The only way I can be loved is to take control of my body and get it to the right size.\u201d
\n\u201cThere is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death\u201d (Proverbs 14:12).<\/p>\n
RIGHT BELIEF:
\n\u201cThe issue in life is not my size but to see myself through God\u2019s eyes. The Lord loves me just as I am. Instead of being consumed by control, I\u2019m choosing to release control of my life and trust the Lord Jesus with every part of my heart.\u201d
\n\u201cTrust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight\u201d (Proverbs 3:5\u20136).<\/p>\n
CONCLUSION\u2014THE PEOPLE\u2019S PRINCESS<\/p>\n
To the world, Diana appeared healthy \u2026 physically, emotionally \u2026 a \u201cpicture perfect\u201d image that catapulted her to the top of fashion and \u201cmost admired\u201d lists. But the hidden truth was that the Princess of Wales was suffering and starving \u2026 for love.
\nShe often felt misunderstood or ignored by those she needed the most, and the deep hurt manifested itself in desperate acts: \u201c\u2026 you have so much pain inside yourself that you try and hurt yourself on the outside.\u2026\u201d
\nBecause Diana\u2019s weight appeared normal\u2014unlike with anorexics\u2014she believed she could \u201cpretend the whole way through\u201d her seemingly ceaseless bouts of bulimia. But there were those who were watching \u2026 whose eyes penetrated through the pretense. Diana would receive comments like, \u201cI suppose you\u2019re going to waste that food later on?\u201d Comments like this created additional pressure, prompting her to relieve that pressure the best way she knew\u2014by vomiting.
\nFor bulimics, their tumultuous struggle is something not to be discussed; therefore, Diana never sought help from the Royal Family. \u201cWhen you have bulimia you\u2019re very ashamed of yourself and you hate yourself.\u201d
\nDiana\u2019s eventual \u201cgoing public\u201d about her bulimia \u2026 gave hope to others. Following Diana\u2019s public admission, the number of sufferers who came forward in England doubled, with 60,000 reported cases in the mid 1990s. It was dubbed the \u201cDiana effect,\u201d prompting people, primarily young women, to first acknowledge their problem and then to seek treatment.
\nAnorexia and bulimia may be \u201csecret\u201d problems, but they affect far more people than just the sufferers. During the recovery process, those with eating disorders typically have fits of rage and depression, and their loved ones may have the very strong temptation to pull back emotionally, increasingly withdraw, or \u201ceven throw in the towel.\u201d
\nBut don\u2019t \u2026 what recovering anorexics and bulimics need more than ever, what they\u2019ve hungered for all along \u2026 is love. The Bible says we should \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 be patient, bearing with one another in love.\u201d
\n(Ephesians 4:2)<\/p>\n
F. What Is God\u2019s Ultimate Plan?<\/p>\n
True security is found in relationship with God. Our hearts seek to be bonded, and the one eternal bond is with God, established through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. That is the ultimate yearning of our soul\u2014to be with God.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cFor I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.\u201d
\n(Romans 8:38\u201339)<\/p>\n
4 POINTS OF GOD\u2019S PLAN<\/p>\n
#1 God\u2019s Purpose for You \u2026 is Salvation.
\n\u2014 What was God\u2019s motivation in sending Jesus Christ to earth?
\nTo express His love for you by saving you! The Bible says \u2026
\n\u201cGod so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him\u201d (John 3:16\u201317).
\n\u2014 What was Jesus\u2019 purpose in coming to earth?
\nTo forgive your sins, to empower you to have victory over sin, and to enable you to live a fulfilled life! Jesus said \u2026
\n\u201cI have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly\u201d (John 10:10 NKJV).<\/p>\n
#2 Your Problem \u2026 is Sin.
\n\u2014 What exactly is sin?
\nSin is living independently of God\u2019s standard\u2014knowing what is right, but choosing what is wrong. The Bible says \u2026
\n\u201cIf anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn\u2019t do it, it is sin for them\u201d (James 4:17).
\n\u2014 What is the major consequence of sin?
\nSpiritual death, eternal separation from God. Scripture states \u2026
\n\u201cYour iniquities [sins] have separated you from your God.\u2026 The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord\u201d (Isaiah 59:2; Romans 6:23).<\/p>\n
#3 God\u2019s Provision for You \u2026 is the Savior.
\n\u2014 Can anything remove the penalty for sin?
\nYes! Jesus died on the cross to personally pay the penalty for your sins. The Bible says \u2026 \u201cGod demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us\u201d (Romans 5:8).
\n\u2014 What is the solution to being separated from God?
\nBelief in (entrusting your life to) Jesus Christ as the only way to God the Father. Jesus says \u2026 \u201cI am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.\u2026 Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved \u2026\u201d (John 14:6; Acts 16:31).<\/p>\n
#4 Your Part \u2026 is Surrender.
\n\u2014 Give Christ control of your life, entrusting yourself to Him.\u2026
\n\u201cJesus said to his disciples, \u2018Whoever wants to be my disciple, must deny themselves and take up their cross [die to their own self-rule] and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?\u2019 \u201d (Matthew 16:24\u201326).
\n\u2014 Place your faith in (rely on) Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior and reject your \u201cgood works\u201d as a means of earning God\u2019s approval.\u2026
\n\u201cIt is by grace you have been saved, through faith\u2014and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God\u2014not by works, so that no one can boast\u201d (Ephesians 2:8\u20139).<\/p>\n
The moment you choose to receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior\u2014entrusting your life to Him\u2014He comes to live inside you. Then He gives you His power to live the fulfilled life God has planned for you. If you want to be fully forgiven by God and become the person God created you to be, you can tell Him in a simple, heartfelt prayer like this:<\/p>\n
PRAYER OF SALVATION
\n\u201cGod, I want a real relationship with You.
\nI admit that many times I\u2019ve chosen to go my own way instead of Your way.
\nPlease forgive me for my sins.
\nJesus, thank You for dying on the cross to pay the penalty for my sins.
\nCome into my life to be my Lord and my Savior.
\nChange me from the inside out and make me the person
\nYou created me to be.
\nIn Your holy name I pray. Amen.\u201d<\/p>\n
WHAT CAN YOU NOW EXPECT?<\/p>\n
If you sincerely prayed this prayer, look at what God says about you!<\/p>\n
\u201cIf the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.\u201d
\n(John 8:36)<\/p>\n
IV. STEPS TO SOLUTION<\/p>\n
She was a member of the \u201cideal American family,\u201d and it almost killed her.
\nHer father, famed singer Pat Boone, achieved star status alongside Elvis Presley in the late 1950s, but with an entirely different image. Wholesome \u2026 winsome \u2026 Pat Boone\u2019s smooth sound landed him 38 Top 40 hits and record sales exceeding 45 million albums.
\nCherry described the pressure she felt as her father\u2019s youngest daughter of four: \u201cBeing Pat Boone\u2019s daughter was very much like being a celebrity\u2019s kid and a preacher\u2019s kid all at the same time: maintaining the Boone image was like balancing on a tightrope.\u201d
\nAnd at age 14 \u2026 Cherry fell off.\u2026
\nEvery person who is starved for love needs to truly know and accept the love of the Lord in order to meet this deepest inner need for love. Our God of love says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.\u201d
\n(Jeremiah 31:3)<\/p>\n
A. Key Verse to Memorize<\/p>\n
Young Cherry felt continual emotional pressure as a member of the touring musical group, The Pat Boone Family. \u201cStared at on stage \u2026 scrutinized in fan magazines\u201d \u2026 seen as perfect, Cherry soon developed an unhealthy dose of self-consciousness along with an unrealistic perception of her physical image.
\n\u201cFor a performer, physical appearance becomes of primary importance,\u201d Cherry recalled. \u201cSuddenly, every imperfection, real or imagined, is a focal point for alteration and improvement.\u201d
\nAnd at age 13, just one offhand comment by an 18-year-old guy about the virtues of being thin prompted Cherry to start dieting. A year later, she turned to anorexia to trim unwanted pounds \u2026 and continued to struggle with this eating disorder for the next decade.
\nThose who know what it is like to struggle for years with an addiction, or any kind of affliction, know through personal experience the necessity of having faith in God our Savior, who offers hope. He offers true hope\u2014not only for the future but also for the present\u2014through a life-changing relationship with the Lord, who goes before you and will be with you \u2026 who will never leave you, nor forsake you. The Bible says about Him \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cThe LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.\u201d
\n(Deuteronomy 31:8)<\/p>\n
B. Key Passage to Read<\/p>\n
Teenager Cherry Boone had a typical battle with her feelings \u2026 but her emotions were anything but \u201cskin-deep.\u201d Deep, deep down, Cherry hated herself.
\n\u201cFurious hatred of my fat translated into a furious hatred of myself,\u201d she recalls. Cherry entirely rejected her God-given body. Along with not eating, Cherry began a daily, two-hour exercise regimen that she practiced \u201creligiously\u201d \u2026 for years. Standing 5 feet 7 inches tall, Cherry should have weighed around 140 pounds, however, over time her scales only topped a scant 92 pounds\u2014almost 50 pounds underweight.
\nOften Cherry wore baggy clothes to conceal her skeletal physique \u2026 however, one day a loose garment slid off her back revealing protruding ribs from an emaciated body. The words of Job 16:8 could very easily apply to Cherry: \u201c\u2026 my gauntness rises up and testifies against me.\u201d Cherry\u2019s mother was horrified.
\nCherry struggled with how her body looked. However, acceptance of her God-given body would be essential to achieve victory.
\nIf, like Cherry, this is your struggle and you have difficulty accepting your appearance, know that God sees you and loves you as His precious creation. You are valuable to Him. The more you realize that God is with you from the moment you are conceived until your final breath, the more you will be able to value both your body and your life.
\nDo you know that God designed you as a one-of-a-kind creation? Do you know that God considers you so special He has a personalized plan for your life? Do you realize that He knit your body together while you were still inside your mother\u2019s womb?
\nRealize the thoroughness of God\u2019s knowledge of you\u2014He states that you are \u201cwonderfully made.\u201d Just knowing that His thoughts are always with you will give you comfort \u2026 for you are always on His mind.
\nRead Psalm 139 and read out loud the truths from these verses. Then you will begin to see how precious you are to God.<\/p>\n
PSALM 139:1\u201318, 23\u201324<\/p>\n
\u2022 God knows me., v. 1
\n\u2022 God knows my sitting and rising., v. 2
\n\u2022 God knows my thoughts., v. 2
\n\u2022 God knows my going out., v. 3
\n\u2022 God knows my lying down., v. 3
\n\u2022 God knows my every way., v. 3
\n\u2022 God knows my words before I speak., v. 4
\n\u2022 God hems me in. (He protects me.), v. 5
\n\u2022 God\u2019s presence is behind me and before me., v. 5
\n\u2022 God\u2019s hand is upon me., v. 5
\n\u2022 God\u2019s presence is around me., vv. 5\u20136
\n\u2022 God\u2019s Spirit is everywhere with me., v. 7
\n\u2022 God cannot be escaped., v. 7
\n\u2022 God is in the heavens., v. 8
\n\u2022 God is in the depths., v. 8
\n\u2022 God is on the wings of the dawn., v. 9
\n\u2022 God is on the far side of the sea., v. 9
\n\u2022 God will guide me where I go., v. 10
\n\u2022 God will hold me tightly., v. 10
\n\u2022 God sees me as clearly in the dark as in bright sunlight., vv. 11\u201312
\n\u2022 God created me., v. 13
\n\u2022 God knit me together in my mother\u2019s womb., v. 13
\n\u2022 God made me in an awesome way., v. 14
\n\u2022 God created me in a way that causes wonder., v. 14
\n\u2022 God saw my frame when I was hidden in my mother\u2019s womb., v. 15
\n\u2022 God saw my unformed body., v. 16
\n\u2022 God ordained all my days and recorded them in His book., v. 16
\n\u2022 God thinks of me., v. 17
\n\u2022 God\u2019s thoughts about me are precious., v. 17
\n\u2022 God\u2019s thoughts about me are vast in number., v. 17
\n\u2022 God\u2019s thoughts about me outnumber the grains of sand., v. 18
\n\u2022 God searches and tests me., v. 23
\n\u2022 God searches and knows my heart., v. 23
\n\u2022 God tests me and knows my anxious thoughts., v. 23
\n\u2022 God sees and leads me., v. 24
\n\u2022 God sees every offensive way in me., v. 24
\n\u2022 God will lead me to experience everlasting life., v. 24<\/p>\n
C. How to Have a Transformed Life<\/p>\n
REACHING THE TARGET: TRANSFORMATION!<\/p>\n
Target #1\u2014A New Purpose: God\u2019s purpose for me is to be conformed to the character of Christ.
\n\u201cThose God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son \u2026\u201d (Romans 8:29).
\n\u2014 \u201cI\u2019ll do whatever it takes to be conformed to the character of Christ.\u201d<\/p>\n
Target #2\u2014A New Priority: God\u2019s priority for me is to change my thinking.
\n\u201cDo not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind\u201d (Romans 12:2).
\n\u2014 \u201cI\u2019ll do whatever it takes to line up my thinking with God\u2019s thinking.<\/p>\n
Target #3\u2014A New Plan: God\u2019s plan for me is to rely on Christ\u2019s strength, not my strength, to be all He created me to be.
\n\u201cI can do all things through him who strengthens me\u201d (Philippians 4:13 ESV).
\n\u2014 \u201cI\u2019ll do whatever it takes to fulfill His plan in His strength.\u201d<\/p>\n
THE FREEDOM FORMULA<\/p>\n
A New Purpose
\n+
\nA New Priority
\n+
\nA New Plan
\nA Transformed Life<\/p>\n
MY PERSONALIZED PLAN<\/p>\n
D. How to First Acknowledge 7 Key Needs<\/p>\n
People like Cherry, suffering with anorexia or bulimia, need to be told \u2026 it\u2019s not about the food.
\nThey need to acknowledge that their true need is to have emotional wounds healed, and they need to understand that the starving and the bingeing and purging are actually used as distractions to avoid facing painful feelings in order to circumvent excruciating events.
\nAnorexics and bulimics also need to be firmly told that society\u2019s bombarding message that \u201cthinness is the way to happiness\u201d is a lie. People with eating disorders tend to isolate themselves from friends and social activities and experience self-loathing rather than self-acceptance. Healthy eating leads to heightened energy \u2026 and a more robust attitude toward life.
\nThe primary need of the person suffering with anorexia or bulimia is not the food they need to receive but the Lord they need to believe. They need to know experientially the One who made them and loves them and longs to heal them and meet their deepest inner needs.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cMy God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.\u201d
\n(Philippians 4:19)<\/p>\n
If you have concerns or if others have expressed concern about your weight or your eating and exercise patterns, take to heart these general principles:<\/p>\n
#1 Agree to get a thorough medical checkup. This condition is life-threatening!
\n\u201cThe prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty\u201d (Proverbs 27:12).<\/p>\n
#2 Acquire as much knowledge about eating disorders as possible\u2014for yourself and for those close to you.
\n\u201cPlans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed\u201d (Proverbs 15:22).<\/p>\n
#3 Attend weekly (or regular) sessions with a knowledgeable, professional, Christian counselor.
\n\u201cApply your heart to instruction and your ears to words of knowledge\u201d (Proverbs 23:12).<\/p>\n
#4 Admit your inability to control your eating pattern.
\n\u201cI do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do\u201d (Romans 7:15).<\/p>\n
#5 Abandon the idea that you just need more willpower. This is not a diet or willpower problem, but a battle to address strongholds.
\n\u201cThe weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ\u201d (2 Corinthians 10:4\u20135). (Also read 2 Corinthians 12:9\u201310.)<\/p>\n
#6 Allow yourself to forgive those who have hurt you \u2026 and even to forgive yourself.
\n\u201cBear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you\u201d (Colossians 3:13).<\/p>\n
#7 Act in total faith on God\u2019s power to rescue you.
\n\u201cIn you, LORD, I have taken refuge; let me never be put to shame. In your righteousness, rescue me and deliver me; turn your ear to me and save me. Be my rock of refuge, to which I can always go; give the command to save me, for you are my rock and my fortress\u201d (Psalm 71:1\u20133).<\/p>\n
E. How to Therapeutically Treat Eating Disorders<\/p>\n
The false starts \u2026 should have proven fatal for Cherry. The huge ingestion of food into an emaciated body \u2026 the wretched ritual of purging \u2026 the swallowing of 60 laxative tablets at one sitting. Make no mistake\u2014Cherry had a death wish, and it looked like it was coming true.
\nHowever, a full family intervention motivated Cherry to seek medical and mental help. She desperately needed a comprehensive understanding of the emotional needs she was trying to meet through her eating disorder. \u201cThe need for acceptance and approval\u2014the need to be perfect\u2014had been a driving force that ultimately brought me to the brink of death \u2026 I expended every effort to be the best I could possibly be in any given area of endeavor, only to repeatedly fall short of my goals and risk losing value in the eyes of others.
\n\u201cTrying even harder, only to miss the mark again and again, resulted in compounded guilt and self-hatred.\u201d
\nThis type of self-loathing guilt is seen in the Psalms.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cMy guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear.\u201d
\n(Psalm 38:4)<\/p>\n
No single approach to breaking addictions is ever enough because bondage is multi-faceted and must incorporate numerous approaches. All addictions involve not only the body but the heart and soul of those they hold captive. That being the case, it is understandable that the Bible instructs us to \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cLove the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.\u201d
\n(Deuteronomy 6:5)<\/p>\n
Having the grace of God operating in our lives, we are both equipped and empowered to make good use of the following treatment approaches to gain inner healing and to overcome eating disorders:<\/p>\n
\u2022 Care from a medical professional: Anorexia and bulimia exacts a tremendous toll on the body. Health consequences can remain years after harmful eating habits have been conquered. A doctor and dietician can often offer helpful advice and treatment for those who have suffered from an eating disorder.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Counsel from a mental health professional: Deeper issues and insecurities that contribute to an eating disorder must be confronted for lasting change to occur. Often a professional counselor can help direct someone with destructive eating patterns to a healthier view of one\u2019s self and of food.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Connection with a community of believers: Being a part of a group who desire to follow Christ, revealing vulnerabilities, and being available to offer and receive support are essential for permanent life change in a believer. Become an active part of a group of Christians to receive spiritual direction and create bonds that can support you when you need it most.<\/p>\n
\u201cCarry each other\u2019s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.\u201d
\n(Galatians 6:2)<\/p>\n
F. How to Know Your True Spiritual Worth<\/p>\n
For Cherry Boone, the humiliation of those tangled times of life began to lessen \u2026 with sound biblical counsel, with sustained support from her new loving husband, and with a heightened awareness of her true self-worth. \u201cI likened myself to an intricately designed, fine gold chain that had become badly tangled in knots,\u201d Cherry recalls. And it became a refreshing revelation \u2026 \u201cthat the chain had never lost its original value merely because it was tangled.\u201d
\nAt age 23, Cherry realized she needed to discover her own God-given identity\u2014apart from her famous parents and apart from her own husband. She began to anticipate a new understanding of her true worth. After all her years of struggle, she was eager to answer a befitting question: \u201cWho is this Cherry, anyway?\u201d
\nNot only Cherry, but women all around the world need to know about their God-given worth because the images are inescapable\u2014the idols of thinness that typically trigger anorexia.
\nThe media\u2019s message is this: \u201cBeauty shines as the smallest number on the bathroom scales.\u201d \u2026 And this message is literally destroying young women. Women who weren\u2019t previously exposed to Western media are now being snared by the self-starvation syndrome.
\nDecades ago, anorexia was primarily associated with young, affluent, white women. Now, this eating disorder is being diagnosed within all demographics: all races, ages, and socioeconomic levels.
\nSouth Pacific islanders in Fiji have traditionally held to a different concept of beauty than those in the West, but according to a study conducted by Dr. Anne Becker of the Harvard Eating Disorders Center, that concept began to change in the late 90s when television became more easily accessible. In just three years, the number of teenage girls at risk for an eating disorder more than doubled and the number of girls who said they forced themselves to vomit in order to maintain a specific weight increased from 3% to 15%.
\nWhen Cherry Boone O\u2019Neill changed her focus, she was set free from anorexia\u2014she looked to a different standard, an eternal standard, God\u2019s standard of truth. Based on the Bible, your true worth isn\u2019t based on your outward appearance but on who you are in Christ. In Him, you are infinitely loved and valued.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.\u201d
\n(Romans 8:39)<\/p>\n
According to the Bible, you can know that \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 You\u2019ve come into a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus; your true identity is in Christ Himself.
\n\u2014 You are a new creation in Christ. You are no longer what you were.
\n\u2014 If you allow Jesus to become the focus of your life\u2014not food, not compulsion, but Christ\u2014you will increasingly find freedom.
\n\u201cTherefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!\u201d (2 Corinthians 5:17).<\/p>\n
\u2022 The old \u201cyou\u201d died.
\n\u2014 When you trusted in Christ alone as your Savior, the old \u201cyou\u201d died, and He gave you a new nature, a new life, a new identity\u2014in Him.
\n\u2014 Your thinking and behavior patterns may still be compulsive about craving food and obsessive about thinness. These patterns, however, no longer need to control you because Christ has broken the power of your sin.
\n\u2014 As you learn to renew your mind with His truth, He will continue to break those compulsive patterns and set you free.
\n\u201cI have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me\u201d (Galatians 2:20).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Even in the midst of your trials, you are totally accepted by the Father.
\n\u2014 Regardless of how you\u2019ve been treated by significant family members and friends, you are given unconditional love and unconditional acceptance from your heavenly Father.
\n\u2014 He loves you just the way you are, but because He loves you, He will change you. He will take your hand, as a father takes the hand of a little child, and will walk you into freedom.
\n\u201c \u2018Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.\u2019 \u2026 You make your saving help my shield, and your right hand sustains me; your help has made me great\u201d (Isaiah 43:1; Psalm 18:35).<\/p>\n
\u2022 The Spirit of Christ will bring about His control in you.
\n\u2014 It\u2019s not your self-control; it\u2019s yielding to the Spirit\u2019s control in you that will produce positive change. When you are rooted in Christ, He will naturally produce the fruit of self-control in you. \u201cThe fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law\u201d (Galatians 5:22\u201323).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Your freedom comes through Christ.
\n\u2014 Family and friends will be used by God, but total freedom from bondage comes only through Christ.
\n\u201c\u2026 because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death\u201d (Romans 8:2).<\/p>\n
WHAT LIES HAVE YOU BEEN TOLD?<\/p>\n
\u2022 The world tells you a lie.
\n\u201cYou can\u2019t be too thin\u2014thin is in!\u201d
\n\u2022 The flesh tells you to live a lie.
\n\u201cYou\u2019ve got to be thin to be accepted.\u201d
\n\u2022 The father of lies, Satan, tells you.
\n\u201cYou will not surely die\u201d (Genesis 3:4 NKJV).<\/p>\n
BUT KNOW THE TRUTH \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 The Truth, Jesus, tells you
\n\u201c\u2026 the truth will set you free\u201d (John 8:32).
\n\u2014 Be free from being controlled by the opinion of others.
\n\u2014 You are free to be the healthy size God created you to be.
\n\u2014 The world\u2019s super models and movie stars are generally underweight and unhealthy.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.\u201d
\n(John 8:36)<\/p>\n
People with eating disorders are love-starved and don\u2019t feel valuable. For them love is spelled T-I-M-E. Express your love by keeping eye contact with them and by spending time with them \u2026 a lot of time.
\nYou will show that they do have value if you tangibly reach out to them. Even if they don\u2019t seem to respond, they desperately seek your acceptance. They desperately long for unconditional love, your love \u2026 the Lord\u2019s love.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cCome to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.\u201d
\n(Matthew 11:28\u201329)<\/p>\n
G. How to Find Your Way to Freedom<\/p>\n
Like a struggling swimmer, when Cherry Boone had been trying to stay afloat in the sea of self-disdain, she was barely surviving. She seemed caught in the undertow of self-hatred, and Cherry couldn\u2019t get free.
\nCaught? Yes, caught and caught again! At one point, her then fianc\u00e9, Dan, caught her squatting on the floor \u2026 gorging on leftover lamb chops \u2026 in the Boone\u2019s dog bowl.
\nHowever, freedom can be found by anyone in any kind of bondage \u2026 but it means facing the facts, assuming responsibility, making choices, taking action, sticking it out. Finding freedom and living in it takes work \u2026 but freedom is worth the labor. Freedom cuts the cords of perfectionism so that your soul can soar to be all that God created you to be.<\/p>\n
It was for this purpose that Jesus was sent \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026 to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners \u2026 to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve \u2026 to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.\u201d
\n(Isaiah 61:1\u20133)<\/p>\n
THE WAY TO FREEDOM<\/p>\n
Your first steps to freedom \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Recognize that you have an eating disorder.
\n\u2014 Face the truth of your unhealthy weight loss and obsession with fat and food.
\n\u2014 Accept the fact that your life and health are seriously compromised.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Acknowledge your need.
\n\u2014 Admit your enslavement to an eating disorder and its power in your life.
\n\u2014 Share your struggle with a trusted friend and break the power of the secret.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Get professional help.
\n\u2014 Seek out a therapist experienced in successfully treating those snared by an eating disorder.
\n\u2014 Realize that it is vital to get help in understanding your illness and overcoming its hold on you.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Discover your past predispositions.
\n\u2014 Explore the family dynamics that possibly \u201cset you up\u201d to have an eating disorder.
\n\u2014 Evaluate past events that still impact your life today and influence your decision making.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Identify your present stressors.
\n\u2014 Examine your life (activities and relationships) and pinpoint areas of stress.
\n\u2014 Reflect on any similarities between past life experiences and present-day situations.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Avoid your destructive patterns.
\n\u2014 Recognize activities where food is the focus and break those patterns.
\n\u2014 Replace energy-draining behaviors involving food with enjoyable energy-producing activities that do not involve food.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Flee your enticing triggers.
\n\u2014 Reflect on times and events that have entrenched you further in destructive eating behaviors.
\n\u2014 Devise a plan of action to overcome unexpected temptations to skip a meal or to binge or purge.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Resist your compelling urges.
\n\u2014 Commit to distract yourself whenever you suddenly feel compelled to \u201cact out\u201d with food.
\n\u2014 Plan an activity you will do when you feel the urge to binge or purge.<\/p>\n
You cannot hope to walk in freedom unless you walk in the truth. Tell yourself the truth\u2014\u201cLord, You created my body\u2014You know what is best for my body.\u201d Then pray everyday \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cTeach me your way, O LORD; that I may walk in your truth; unite my heart to fear [honor] your name.\u201d
\n(Psalm 86:11 ESV)<\/p>\n
THE WAY TO SUSTAINED FREEDOM<\/p>\n
The way to true and total freedom \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Yield yourself to God.
\n\u2014 Surrender your life, your heart, your mind, your will, and your emotions to Christ.
\n\u2014 Submit to God\u2019s rule in your life over your relationships, your thoughts, and your actions.
\n\u201cSubmit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you\u201d (James 4:7).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Claim your victory in Christ.
\n\u2014 Accept by faith the fact that Christ has set you free from the power of sin and death.
\n\u2014 Act on your faith by thinking, talking, and acting in ways that reflect your position as an overcomer through Christ, as one who has moved from death to life.
\n\u201cDo not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness\u201d (Romans 6:13).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Picture your success.
\n\u2014 Count yourself dead to the call of temptation that would cause you to give in to sin.
\n\u2014 Consider yourself a citizen of heaven, having submitted to Jesus Christ and walking in total victory over all worldly and fleshly desires.
\n\u201cOur citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body\u201d (Philippians 3:20\u201321).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Replace lies with truth.
\n\u2014 Reject negative thoughts about yourself and replace them with Scriptures that affirm your value and worth to God and the extent of His commitment to you as His child, His priceless possession.
\n\u2014 Remember that feelings change and cannot be trusted, but God does not change. He is totally trustworthy, and His promises are utterly reliable in every circumstance and at all times.
\n\u201cNow it is God who makes both us and you stand firm in Christ. He anointed us, set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come.\u2026 since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God\u201d (2 Corinthians 1:21\u201322; 7:1).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Devise a plan for daily success.
\n\u2014 Begin and end each day in prayer, praise, and worship, thanking God and seeking His continued guidance.
\n\u2014 Be sure to lay out a detailed plan for each day that contains your daily activities, including balanced meals, Bible study, Scripture memorization, and other healthy activities.
\n\u201cAs long as he sought the LORD, God gave him success\u201d (2 Chronicles 26:5).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Enlist the support of others.
\n\u2014 Get involved in a group Bible study or prayer group where you can study God\u2019s Word and share prayer requests with other Christians on a regular basis.
\n\u2014 Gather some accountability friends who will check with you on a daily basis, ask you piercing agreed-upon questions, and pray for you to keep walking in freedom.
\n\u201cTwo are better than one \u2026 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.\u2026 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice\u201d (Ecclesiastes 4:9\u201310; Proverbs 27:9).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Throw away your scales.
\n\u2014 Make it your goal to eat healthy, not to lose or gain weight. Trust God to fulfill His promise to provide for your needs as you delight in Him and focus on His desires for you.
\n\u2014 Manage your life well, maintain a good balance in all areas, make a plan, and then carry out your plan. Lose your scales or they will hold you captive to human traditions.
\n\u201cSee to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ\u201d (Colossians 2:8).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Journal your journey.
\n\u2014 Realize that it is important for you to remember your journey with Christ into the freedom He died to secure for you.
\n\u2014 Record in a daily journal the ways the Lord is manifesting His power in your life through His mighty acts of deliverance in various areas of your life. Then share them with your loved ones\u2014both young and old\u2014to encourage them and to bring glory to God.
\n\u201cFix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates\u201d (Deuteronomy 11:18\u201320).<\/p>\n
Remember this biblical truth as you walk the road of freedom in Christ Jesus \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cIt is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.\u201d
\n(Galatians 5:1)<\/p>\n
H. How to Overcome Fears about Food with Facts<\/p>\n
The best \u201cdiet\u201d improves the whole you! Better nutrition means better digestion, energy, skin, hair, eyes \u2026 and all.
\nBut if fear of eating food holds you captive\u2014if you are a prisoner of past false thinking\u2014then you need to be set free. You need to know that your God will help and strengthen you to overcome the lies and the fear that enslave you. The Lord says \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cSo do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.\u201d
\n(Isaiah 41:10)<\/p>\n
#1 FOOD FEAR: \u201cThere are forbidden foods that I should never eat. If I eat a banana, I will get fat \u2026 and then I will have to throw it up.\u201d<\/p>\n
FOOD FACT: An average banana has 100 calories, and no one can get fat on 100 calories! Bananas will give you 14 different vitamins and minerals. They are nutritionally high in potassium, vitamins C and B6, and dietary fiber. They also reduce the risk of stroke and high blood pressure.
\n\u2014 Vitamin C helps the body defend and heal against infections.
\n\u2014 Vitamin B6 makes protein and helps produce blood.
\n\u2014 Potassium regulates heart beat, metabolism, fluids in your cells, fires up your nerve impulses, and makes your muscles work.
\n\u2014 Dietary fiber promotes healthy digestion and bowel function.<\/p>\n
#2 FOOD FEAR: \u201cI can\u2019t eat anything or I\u2019ll get fat \u2026 plus I don\u2019t have the energy to eat anything!\u201d<\/p>\n
FOOD FACT: The longer you wait to eat, the less energy you\u2019ll have. Realize that orange juice has long been considered the fastest energy source, followed by honey. Mixing honey (carbohydrate) and peanut butter (protein) will slow down your digestion of carbohydrates and thus prolong your surge of energy.<\/p>\n
\u201cMy son, eat thou honey, because it is good; and the honeycomb, which is sweet to thy taste.\u2026\u201d
\n(Proverbs 24:13 KJV)<\/p>\n
DIETING<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cIsn\u2019t the solution to eating disorders as simple as putting people who want to be thin on a good diet and then helping them stay on it until they reach their desired weight?\u201d
\nANSWER: Part of the problem in treating an eating disorder is realizing that it really isn\u2019t about food or weight. Rather, it is about control and emotional pain. But even if it was about food and weight, dieting would not be the solution because dieting has not proven to be a consistently effective way to lose weight for most people. The fact is \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Dieting can slow down the body\u2019s metabolism, slowing down weight loss.
\n\u2022 Dieting can lead to more muscle loss than fat loss.
\n\u2022 Teenagers who are frequent dieters are three times more likely to be overweight as adults.<\/p>\n
The best and healthiest way to lose weight is simply to eat \u2026 not starve. The key to healthy eating is simply providing your body with the nutrients it needs by eating lots of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains while consuming sufficient meats and getting exercise in moderation. God designed our bodies to be dependent on food, exercise, and sleep. We need to balance those three necessities in order to be truly healthy and thus, be good stewards of the body God has entrusted to us.<\/p>\n
Additionally, we need to receive with thanksgiving all He has provided for our bodies.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cEverything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.\u201d
\n(1 Timothy 4:4\u20135)<\/p>\n
I. How to Eat Your Way to Good Health<\/p>\n
If a little is good, a lot is better \u2026 so goes the thinking of overeaters who struggle to find balance in their life\u2014and balance in their diet. Much of the time, when a little is good, a lot is not! And at other times, especially for anorexic and bulimic strugglers\u2014if little is good, less is not!
\nIn our quest for the best, we can throw out the good \u2026 and end with the worst. We forget that when God saw all He had created He said, \u201cIt is good.\u201d
\n\u201cHealthy\u201d is good. \u201cBalance\u201d is good. Healthy, balanced eating is good \u2026 and it is possible\u2014even for the anorexic and bulimic. The questions are: Will you do it? How will you do it? When will you do it? Where will you do it? And \u2026 what are the ramifications of not doing it?<\/p>\n
\u201cGod saw all that he had made, and it was very good\u201d.
\n(Genesis 1:31)<\/p>\n
\u2022 Decide to try healthy, balanced eating \u2026
\n\u2014 Keep unhealthy foods out of sight \u2026 and in hard to reach places. Or better yet, don\u2019t even buy them.
\n\u2014 Learn how to eat healthy \u2026 not how to avoid eating or how to purge after eating.
\n\u2014 Plan nutritional meals and snacks for each day \u2026 using a variety of foods. Track your calorie intake.
\n\u2014 Make a shopping list.\u2026 Don\u2019t shop when you are hungry.
\n\u2014 Realize strict diets lead to sure failure.\u2026 Healthy eating leads to sure success.
\n\u2014 Reward yourself for eating healthy \u2026 but not with food.
\n\u2014 Rid your residence of binge and trigger (usually sugary or starchy) foods.\u2026 Stock up on healthy snacks.
\n\u2014 Stop focusing on weight loss.\u2026 Focus on healthy, balanced eating.
\n\u2014 Think about how a particular food makes your body feel \u2026 to help determine if it\u2019s okay to eat.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Practice following these guidelines \u2026
\n\u2014 Eat three small meals a day \u2026 at scheduled times.
\n\u2014 Eat small snacks between meals \u2026 at planned times.
\n\u2014 Eat meals and snacks \u2026 at the dining or breakfast table and never in a vehicle, bedroom, bathroom, or when in a hurry.
\n\u2014 Eat nothing before or during meal\/snack preparation \u2026 or after the meal\/snack is over.
\n\u2014 Determine to truly experience your food \u2026 noting its color, size, shape, texture, and smell.
\n\u2014 Eat slowly, chewing each bite, enjoying the flavor \u2026 and putting your eating utensil down between bites.
\n\u2014 Stop eating and relax several times throughout a meal.\u2026 Think about anything other than eating, visit with someone, look around the room or out the window.
\n\u2014 Take just one or two bites of fattening foods.\u2026 That small amount won\u2019t make a difference to your body.
\n\u2014 Remind yourself that everyone feels full and clothes feel tighter around the waist after eating.\u2026 These feelings will go away as your body digests the food and puts it to use.<\/p>\n
As you seek to gain God\u2019s perspective on food and strive to make God-honoring decisions regarding your food intake, realize what the Bible says.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cSo I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun.\u201d
\n(Ecclesiastes 8:15)<\/p>\n
J. How to Know the Dos & Don\u2019ts for Family and Friends<\/p>\n
For Cherry Boone O\u2019Neill, the most critical \u201cdos\u201d for family and friends include pouring out loving compassion on the struggler and dispensing huge doses of hope. For victims of eating disorders, Cherry said, \u201cDan and I have found that hope is among the most positive motivators in achieving health that loved ones\u2014and victims of eating disorders\u2014can have. Maintaining hope for ourselves, and sharing hope with others, allows for the possibility\u2014even the likelihood\u2014that a distant light is glowing at the end of the dark tunnel.\u201d<\/p>\n
When all is said and done, people struggling with anorexia and bulimia truly need hope for their hearts.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cNow, Lord, what do I look for? My hope is in you.\u201d
\n(Psalm 39:7)<\/p>\n
The female figure \u2026 can be a fanatical issue.
\nTell a young woman her thighs are too big or tease her about a bulging belly and she can immediately spiral downward into a dangerous world of dieting and self-starvation. One comment is often all it takes for a young woman\u2019s self-esteem to sink and her fixation on her figure to rise. Therefore, family and friends must be keenly sensitive to teasing and offhand comments, particularly in a society where eating disorders are rapidly increasing and enslaving young women because of society\u2019s glorification of thinness. Be sure to \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cBe completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.\u201d
\n(Ephesians 4:2)<\/p>\n
Good things to do \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 De-emphasize dieting and emphasize healthy eating habits and fitness.
\n\u2022 Arrange schedules in order to eat more meals together.
\n\u2022 Critically discuss the unhealthy body images portrayed in the media.
\n\u2022 Clearly expose the massive amount of retouching done to published photos of models.
\n\u2022 Create a scrapbook of healthy body images.<\/p>\n
Good truths to remember \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.\u201d
\n(1 Corinthians 6:19\u201320 ESV)<\/p>\n
Here Are the Dos \u2026<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Learn everything you can.
\nKnowledge is your friend, while ignorance is your enemy. Find the best material you can at the library, on the Internet, or from competent professionals.
\n\u201cListen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise\u201d (Proverbs 19:20).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Confront in a loving way.
\nConfrontation is not easy! But doing nothing is the opposite of truly loving someone.
\n\u201cThe words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing\u201d (Proverbs 12:18).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Seek professional help for the one in need.
\nA mark of wisdom is acknowledging your need for advice. Locating a specialist in eating disorders may require asking a pastor, a physician, or a school counselor for help.
\n\u201cPride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise\u201d (Proverbs 13:10 NLT).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Talk about emotions, striving to reach deeper levels of communication.
\nAsk, \u201cWhy do you feel this way?\u201d Seek to uncover the underlying causes behind this crisis.
\n\u201cThe purposes of a preson\u2019s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out\u201d (Proverbs 20:5).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Listen, listen, listen with your heart.
\nThe best conversationalist is someone who knows how to listen. People love to hear their words repeated: \u201cSo what you are saying is \u2026\u201d Listening and repeating what is said helps build trust and opens up communication, which in turn leads to healing.
\n\u201c[There is] \u2026 a time to be silent and a time to speak \u2026\u201d (Ecclesiastes 3:7).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Verbalize your genuine, heartfelt love by using tender, endearing terms.
\nPositive reinforcement is crucial. Tender terms such as precious or dear or saying their name in a tender way will often help someone to feel nurtured. (Avoid sounding contrived.) A pet name can be especially endearing to both men and women.
\n\u201cA word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver\u201d (Proverbs 25:11 ESV).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Express love with physical affection.
\nLooking someone in the eyes, reaching out to touch a hand, or a gentle touch on the shoulder can be helpful. In certain family relationships, hugging, holding, and kissing can be especially meaningful.
\n\u201cA friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity\u201d (Proverbs 17:17).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Be honest about the dangers.
\nThe debilitating effects of eating disorders wreak havoc on the body. Those in need of help need to learn to think long-term, not short-term, about the very real dangers of eating disorders.
\n\u201c\u2026 encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone\u201d (1 Thessalonians 5:14).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Stay with your loved one around the clock.
\nIn high-risk situations, for a limited period of time during a health crisis, enlist other nurturing people to be present, if necessary. Frequently, being present with them means paying the high cost of commitment, but salvaging a life is worth the cost.
\n\u201cOne who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother\u201d (Proverbs 18:24).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Do \u2026 Pray faithfully.
\nLet your loved one know that you are specifically praying for them by name. Pray with them for courage to overcome and to heal.
\n\u201cThe prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective\u201d (James 5:16).<\/p>\n
And Here Are the Don\u2019ts \u2026<\/p>\n
Cherry Boone O\u2019Neill described a definite \u201cdon\u2019t\u201d for family and friends of strugglers\u2014don\u2019t expect a quick fix. Eating disorders are a complicated phenomenon, an intertwining of emotional, physical, and spiritual issues, and time is a necessary healer. It may take years to fully rebound and regain self-control, and even then, some can relapse into old routines at any moment.
\nAnother important \u201cdon\u2019t\u201d from Cherry: don\u2019t fail to forgive. Anorexics and bulimics are desperately in need of the \u201c70 times 7\u201d principle, which tells us to always forgive, taught by Jesus.<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t be forceful or controlling.
\nOne mother succeeded in getting her daughter to eat by distracting her from negative thoughts with constant praise and unconditional love during all her waking moments.
\n\u201cGracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones\u201d (Proverbs 16:24).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t be unrealistic about your expectations for change.
\nIt has taken nearly a lifetime of negative thinking to reach this point. It may take a long time for full healing to take place.
\n\u201cA person\u2019s wisdom yields patience; it is to one\u2019s glory to overlook an offense\u201d (Proverbs 19:11).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t naively assume that all well-meaning doctors who treat anorexics and bulimics are equally capable.
\nFind a competent, compassionate specialist who ministers to the inner needs of patients and with whom the patient can develop a deep bond of trust. If necessary, seek a second or third opinion.
\n\u201cPlans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed\u201d (Proverbs 15:22).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t let anorexics see the numbers on the scale when being weighed.
\nTell them you will relieve them of the responsibility of knowing their weight. Whatever the number, their negative thinking tells them it\u2019s too high. If they don\u2019t have a number to fight, that\u2019s one less negative they have to contend with.
\n\u201cThe wise in heart are called discerning, and gracious words promote instruction\u201d (Proverbs 16:21).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t expect rejoicing by an anorexic struggler at putting on needed weight.
\nStrugglers have a well-developed mental and emotional aversion to gaining weight. Their spontaneous reaction to weight gain will naturally be negative until their thought patterns and beliefs have changed through the renewing of their minds.
\n\u201cDo not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God\u2019s will is\u2014his good, pleasing and perfect will\u201d (Romans 12:2).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t fail to request help from a former anorexic.
\nFormer anorexics know all the tricks, such as poisoning their food, exercising under the sheets, and slipping food up their sleeves to discard later. Nothing is more reassuring to someone with an eating disorder than a helping hand from someone who\u2019s been there\u2014someone now living in victory.
\n\u201cAs iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another\u201d (Proverbs 27:17).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t assume that you are helpless if anorexics won\u2019t eat. Offer to hand feed as a short-term, emergency response (not a pattern of behavior).
\nBecause anorexics possess a negative mind-set that tells them not to eat, hand feeding can relieve the self-imposed pressures of guilt and fear from overeating.
\n\u201cCarry each other\u2019s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ\u201d (Galatians 6:2).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t stock or eat \u201ctrigger\u201d or unhealthy foods in your home if an anorexic or bulimic lives with you.
\nJust as you would not flaunt alcohol in the presence of a recovering alcoholic, be aware of the anorexics great struggle to eat healthy and their tremendous need to avoid temptation.
\n\u201cAnd lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one\u201d (Matthew 6:13).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t compliment positive changes in body weight by saying, \u201cYou look healthy.\u201d
\nThe word healthy to strugglers means \u201cfat.\u201d To say they look healthy translates into telling them they look fat. Don\u2019t mention any weight gain. Tell them their eyes look sparkly and alive again, their skin youthful, their hair shiny and silky, and their energy level high.
\n\u201cEach of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up\u201d (Romans 15:2).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t give up.
\nPatience, persistence, and perseverance are essential to help restore your loved one to wholeness.
\n\u201cLove is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.\u2026 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails\u201d (1 Corinthians 13:4, 7\u20138).<\/p>\n
RELIGIOUS OBSESSIONS AND DISORDERED EATING<\/p>\n
QUESTION: \u201cWhy do some anorexics view not eating as an \u2018act of faith\u2019?\u201d
\nANSWER: If they come from a highly structured or authoritarian religious background, their refusal to eat helps them feel a sense of control, while much of their life was out of their control.
\nLovingly remind them of these biblical principles:<\/p>\n
\u2022 Using Scripture to justify destructive choices does not honor God.
\nSatan twisted Scripture to match his twisted thinking.
\n\u201c \u2018If you are the Son of God,\u2019 he [Satan] said, \u2018throw yourself down. For it is written: \u201cHe will command his angels concerning you, and they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.\u201d \u2019 Jesus answered him, \u2018It is also written: \u201cDo not put the Lord your God to the test\u201d \u2019 \u201d (Matthew 4:6\u20137).
\nIs it possible that you are misusing Scripture to justify your flawed attitude toward food?<\/p>\n
\u2022 While Christ calls us to lay down our lives for him, He never calls anyone to murder themselves (suicide) but desires for us to be \u201cliving\u201d sacrifices.
\n\u201cTherefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God\u2019s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God\u2014this is your true and proper worship\u201d (Romans 12:1).
\nWhat does it mean to be a \u201cliving\u201d sacrifice to God, and how could suicide (by refusal to eat) ever qualify as a \u201cliving\u201d sacrifice that is \u201choly and pleasing to God?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 Christ intends for us to demonstrate to the world the fullness of life that only He makes possible.
\n\u201c\u2026 I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full \u2026 let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven\u201d (John 10:10; Matthew 5:16).
\nHow does your attitude toward food demonstrate the fullness of life that Jesus provides?<\/p>\n
\u2022 A biblical perspective on life and caring for one\u2019s body assumes that proper nutrition needs are met.
\n\u201cAfter all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church\u2014for we are members of his body\u201d (Ephesians 5:29\u201330).<\/p>\n
Jesus takes care of his spiritual body\u2014the church. Doesn\u2019t He expect you to care for the physical body that He gave you?<\/p>\n
Help strugglers to understand their immeasurable worth to God and that by refusing to eat, they are challenging God\u2019s assessment of their value. God provides food for birds, but if the birds reject God\u2019s gift of food\u2014they will die. Rejecting food is not an act of dependence on God but a rejection of the good gifts God has provided.<\/p>\n
\u201cLook at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?\u201d
\n(Matthew 6:26)<\/p>\n
K. How to Confront \u2026 Because You Care<\/p>\n
One of the most powerful acts on behalf of someone struggling with any addiction is a crisis intervention\u2014a carefully orchestrated meeting that brings together family, friends, coworkers, and other caring individuals in an effort to persuade the struggler to voluntarily engage in treatment. During the meeting, group members recount specific ways in which the struggler\u2019s behavior has become detrimental, not only to the loved one but also to relationships.
\nThis \u201ctough love\u201d intervention is effective 80% of the time in motivating strugglers to receive the critical help they so desperately need. And the most powerful aspect of a crisis intervention is the group dynamic\u2014it\u2019s true, there is power in numbers!
\nTypically, one family member seeks to stop destructive behavior, but each plea is dismissed. Although as individuals, they are powerless to persuade the struggler to get help\u2014as a group, they are powerful. In fact, a group can be empowered by God to move the immovable. God\u2019s Word lays out the blueprint for such an intervention.\u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cIf your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that \u2018every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.\u2019 \u201d
\n(Matthew 18:15\u201316)<\/p>\n
STEPS TO A SUCCESSFUL CRISIS INTERVENTION<\/p>\n
\u2022 Pray for wisdom and understanding from the Lord.
\n\u201cThe LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding\u201d (Proverbs 2:6).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Educate yourself regarding crisis intervention programs. Read materials on intervention and visit treatment facilities.
\n\u201cThe heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out\u201d (Proverbs 18:15).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Call a counseling office and request a referral to a Christian leader who is trained in intervention procedures.
\n\u201cPlans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed\u201d (Proverbs 15:22).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Meet with a trained leader (usually referred to as an interventionist) to plan the intervention. Learn how an intervention works and discuss treatment program options, preadmission plans, procedures, insurance, and the impact of treatment on the struggler\u2019s employment.
\n\u201cListen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise\u201d (Proverbs 19:20).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Enlist the participation of key people affected by the struggler\u2019s harmful behavior who are willing to confront (caring family members, friends, coworkers, doctor, employer, spiritual leader).
\n\u201cA truthful witness saves lives \u2026\u201d (Proverbs 14:25).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hold a first meeting (in absolute confidentiality and without the struggler present) to give everyone a chance to get to know each other, to share the impact the struggler\u2019s behavior has had on each person\u2019s life, and to receive complete details on how the intervention will happen.
\n\u201cA honest witness tells the truth \u2026\u201d (Proverbs 12:17).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hold a second meeting (in absolute confidentiality and again without the struggler present) during which key people rehearse (with the interventionist) what they will say, how they will say it, and the order in which they will confront. They will also all determine the consequences if the struggler declines their help.
\n\u201cBetter is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted \u2026\u201d (Proverbs 27:5\u20136).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Hold a third meeting (with the struggler present) where each person communicates genuine care for the struggler and shares the rehearsed confrontations. (Examples are found in \u201cThe Six Ps of an Appeal\u201d in the next section.)
\n\u201cThe soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit\u201d (Proverbs 15:4).<\/p>\n
\u2022 After everyone has shared, the interventionist conveys the courage it took for everyone involved to be there and their willingness to support the struggler throughout the treatment period. The interventionist clearly details the negative consequences of the addiction if treatment is refused. The struggler is then given reasons why immediate, urgent care is necessary and is told that a room has been reserved at a treatment facility.
\n\u201cWho is wise? Let them realize these things. Who is discerning? Let them understand. The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them\u201d (Hosea 14:9).<\/p>\n
\u2022 This third meeting concludes with the struggler either immediately entering a treatment program or experiencing the repercussions for refusing treatment previously agreed on by the group.
\n\u201cWhoever rebukes a person will in the end gain favor rather than one who has a flattering tongue\u201d (Proverbs 28:23).<\/p>\n
Those who participate in crisis interventions experience deep anguish at the suffering of different loved ones and can readily relate to these words \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cI will not keep silent; I will speak out in the anguish of my spirit.\u2026\u201d
\n(Job 7:11)<\/p>\n
THE SIX PS OF AN APPEAL<\/p>\n
#1 The Personal
\nAffirm rather than attack.
\n\u2014 \u201cI want you to know how much I care about you\u2014that\u2019s why I\u2019m here.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cI sincerely love you, and I\u2019m terribly concerned about you.\u201d
\n\u201cDo not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen\u201d (Ephesians 4:29).<\/p>\n
#2 The Past
\nGive a recent, specific example describing the struggler\u2019s negative behavior and the personal impact it has had on you. Be brief, keeping examples to three or four sentences.
\n\u2014 \u201cLast night I felt so embarrassed when you were obviously going to the bathroom to throw up.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cYou haven\u2019t been able to join us for a family meal\u2014and it feels feel like you don\u2019t love us.\u201d
\n\u201cThe one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered\u201d (Proverbs 17:27).<\/p>\n
#3 The Pain
\nEmphasize the painful impact the struggler\u2019s behavior has had on you. Use \u201cI\u201d statements.
\n\u2014 \u201cI\u2019ve felt so humiliated at being yelled at in front of our friends\u2014I can\u2019t begin to describe the pain.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cAs your best friend, I feel cut out of your life. That hurts me so much.\u201d
\n\u201cThe hearts of the wise make their mouths prudent, and their lips promote instruction\u201d (Proverbs 16:23).<\/p>\n
#4 The Plea
\nMake a personal plea for your struggler to receive treatment.
\n\u2014 \u201cI plead with you to get the help you need to overcome your eating disorder.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cIf you\u2019re willing, you\u2019ll have my help and my deepest respect.\u201d
\n\u201cThe tongue has the power of life and death \u2026\u201d (Proverbs 18:21).<\/p>\n
#5 The Plan
\nBe prepared to implement an immediate plan if treatment is agreed on.
\n\u2014 \u201cYour bags have been packed.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cYou have been accepted into the treatment program at __________________.\u201d
\n\u201cRescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter. If you say, \u2018But we knew nothing about this,\u2019 does not he who weighs the heart perceive it? Does not he who guards your life know it? Will he not repay everyone according to what they have done?\u201d (Proverbs 24:11\u201312).<\/p>\n
#6 The Price
\nIf the agreement is refused, detail the repercussions.
\n\u2014 \u201cWe cannot allow you to come home or to be with our family until after you\u2019ve been through the treatment program.\u201d
\n\u2014 \u201cYou must be addiction-free for ().\u201d
\n\u201cStern discipline awaits anyone who leaves the path; the one who hates correction will die\u201d (Proverbs 15:10).<\/p>\n
THE DON\u2019TS OF DIALOGUE<\/p>\n
We can be on the side of right, yet our actions can be wrong. However, many times we can influence a person to want to change, not by what we say but by how we say it. The Bible says, \u201cIf someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently\u201d (Galatians 6:1).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t get involved in name-calling, preaching, or being judgmental. Instead, focus on the struggler\u2019s behavior.
\n\u2014 \u201cLast night, I felt so belittled when you called me those vile names.\u201d
\n\u201cWhoever derides their neighbor has no sense, but the one who has understanding holds their tongue\u201d (Proverbs 11:12).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t come to the defense of the struggler when others are confronting. Instead, affirm the feelings of the confronter.
\n\u2014 \u201cIt\u2019s understandable that his (the struggler\u2019s) actions were extremely hurtful to you.\u201d
\n\u201cThere is a \u2026 time to be silent and a time to speak\u201d (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t argue if your facts are disputed.
\n\u2014 \u201cI\u2019m hearing you say those words weren\u2019t cutting. We\u2019ll just agree to disagree.\u201d
\n\u201cThe Lord\u2019s servant must not be quarrelsome \u2026\u201d (2 Timothy 2:24\u201326).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t overreact. Instead, keep your emotions under control.
\n\u2014 If verbally attacked, calmly state your position. If opposed again, calmly repeat the same words again and again. \u201cThis is in your best interest.\u201d
\n\u201cEveryone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires\u201d (James 1:19\u201320).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t give ultimatums unless you are prepared to follow through with them. Hold your ground.
\n\u2014 If your struggler hasn\u2019t followed through and finished what was promised and then says, \u201cLet me come back home.\u2026 I\u2019ve learned my lesson! I promise not to do it again,\u201d you should say, \u201cNo, you cannot come back until you have completed the program.\u201d
\n\u201c\u2026 let your \u2018yes\u2019 be yes and your \u2018no\u2019 be no \u2026\u201d (James 5:12 ESV).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t shield your loved one from facing consequences. Instead, maintain your integrity.
\n\u2014 \u201cI will not lie to your boss again.\u201d
\n\u201cA man reaps what he sows\u201d (Galatians 6:7).<\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t accept promises with no commitment for immediate action. Instead, realize that words without actions are worthless.
\n\u2014 If the response is, \u201cI can\u2019t go now, but I promise to go next month,\u201d your role as the boundary setter is to convey the repercussions for delay.
\n\u201cThe simple believe anything, but the prudent give thought to their steps\u201d (Proverbs 14:15).<\/p>\n
The idea of participating in a crisis intervention could seem like a conspiracy to some. And other would-be participants could fear that they will offend or jeopardize the relationship with the struggler. Rather than a conspiracy, think of an intervention as collaboration\u2014a caring group of loving, committed supporters willing to temporarily forgo the understanding and approval of a struggler in exchange for the possibility of a greater long-term good. Take heart in knowing that one day your struggler will most likely see your role of courageous compassion through God\u2019s eyes \u2026 and thank you, realizing \u2026<\/p>\n
\u201cWounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.\u201d
\n(Proverbs 27:6 NLT)<\/p>\n
L. The Prayer for Healing<\/p>\n
While you may not think you have the strength to make the changes, you do \u2026 as you call on the Lord for strength and perseverance. Let the prayer of your heart echo the promising heart cries found in God\u2019s Word. Remember, you are His child and He longs to answer your prayers for healing as you surrender to His loving will.<\/p>\n
THE PRAYER OF MY HEART
\n~ PSALM 31 ~<\/p>\n
\u201cO LORD, I have come to you for protection; don\u2019t let me be disgraced. Save me, for you do what is right.\u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord. I give myself to You.<\/p>\n
\u201cTurn your ear to listen to me; rescue me quickly. Be my rock of protection, a fortress where I will be safe.\u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord. I give my heart to You.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou are my rock and my fortress. For the honor of your name, lead me out of this danger.\u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord. I give my will to You.<\/p>\n
\u201cPull me from the trap my enemies set for me, for I find protection in you alone.\u2026\u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord. I give my soul to You.<\/p>\n
\u201cI will be glad and rejoice in your unfailing love, for you have seen my troubles, and you care about the anguish of my soul.\u2026\u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord. I give my life to You.<\/p>\n
\u201cHave mercy on me, LORD, for I am in distress. Tears blur my eyes. My body and soul are withering away.\u2026 I am wasting away from within.\u2026\u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord. I give my all to You.<\/p>\n
\u201cI am trusting you, O LORD, saying, \u2018You are my God!\u2019 \u201d
\nI am Your child\u2014heal me, O Lord.
\n(Psalm 31:1\u20134, 7, 9, 10, 14 NLT)<\/p>\n
Those who struggle with eating disorders feel they have no control.
\nThey conclude: Food is the only thing I can control,
\nhow much or how little I consume.
\nBut their deepest need is not getting control.
\nIt is giving control to Christ. He is the One who sets them free.
\n\u2014JUNE HUNT<\/p>\n
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By June Hunt \u201cI miss Ana,\u201d she laments.1 Her dear friend is gone. And with that departure, her world turned upside down. But now she wants everything back to the way it used to be. That\u2019s when she had control over her life \u2026 that\u2019s when Ana was crucial in her life. Yet others objected\u2014those … <\/p>\n